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nakedcouch
Jan 21, 2011, 04:50 AM
On new years I had consumed 1.5 liters of wine and a few rum and cokes, needless to say I was quite drunk. I was at my friends house, and around two am we went downstairs to his room to watch t.v since his aunt and uncle were in bed sleeping. So we were sitting there and I was complaining about a pain in my neck that I had. A legitimate pain, I was not trying to be coy and seductive in any way. He offered to rub my neck/shoulders and I said sure, I took off my dress shirt (I had a t-shirt on underneath) and he started to rub my neck.

After this I can not recall much, at all. I do not know if it is because I do not want to remember what happened, or if I was that drunk. There is a few things I can for sure recall,however. Which are (in order of happening)
1- "No, I really do have a four nipples." (Honest! I do!)
2- "But those are my pants?!"
3- He said "**** off stupid cat!"
4- "Any suggestions?" He asked me. "uhhhhh" then I had a sip of Sailor Jerry's
5- Him trying to penetrate me.
5.5- "ow ow" "does it hurt?" "yeah"
6- Having my head pushed down in his crotch/o hi supa gag reflex~
7- Getting up with the blanket, going to the washroom and then leaving his sleeping area and crashing on the basement couch naked, wrapped in the blanket.

Since this happened I can't bring myself to talk to him about it. I don't know how, I don't want it to ruin our otherwise great friendship. I feel dirty, and cheap now, and it is bothering me not being able to talk about it with him.

Can anyone help me out and give me some much appreciated advid/words of wisdom.

adviceishere
Jan 21, 2011, 05:11 AM
You should try talking to him about it, chances are he will put your mind at ease and tell you not to feel so bad, you could just say "sorry i dont usually act like that, that its completely out of character for you", alcohol makes us do stupid things and I think anyone that does drink alcohol will understand where your worries are coming from, we have all been there, including me! Aw that feeling you get the next morning is awful! I can completely understand how your feeling, if he wasn't as good a friend as you say I would tell you just to forgive yourself and try and forget and never consume so much alcohol again, but you should get it out in the open so as not to have that awkwardness between you both. Maybe he will even confront you about it first, but you must forgive yourself and put this down to a lesson well learnt, don't feel so bad, your not on your own when it comes to these shameful experiences'. What happened, happened all you can do it forgive and forget.

joypulv
Jan 21, 2011, 06:35 AM
Alcohol isn't who you are, it doesn't open up some deeper self, because you are so suggestible when drunk. Try to believe that the entire experience is completely out of character for him as well as you. If you need to talk about sex with him because you are female and he is male and you are wondering what the future holds for your friendship, first ask yourself if you want sex with him, and if yes, ask him how he feels about it - just like that: Do you wish we were having sex. If no, say you are sorry that you were drunk, and hope you and he can both forget about it.

CravenMorhead
Jan 21, 2011, 08:28 AM
How old are you?

We need it before we can talk any further. Advice to minors and all that.

Enigma1999
Jan 21, 2011, 09:01 PM
I second that. We need an age, please?

JudyKayTee
Jan 22, 2011, 11:14 AM
In case a third is needed - here it is.

I wonder about the legalities of the whole sex act - her head pushed down on his crotch.

Of course the text speak doesn't help any.