Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half now. For the past 3 months our relationship has changed a lot for the downside, I moved back in with my parents so I can get on my feet, and he still lives with his, were 21 by the way. For our 21st b-day we planned to go snowboarding together with some of his friends. Well last week he told me that I can't go because one of his friends who's birthfay is also around the same time said no girls allowed. But my boyfriend also added in "He's trying to get laid, but dont worry he's not the one to share." I'm not upset because I can't go, I'm upset because his friend was the one who decided I wasn't going and he is going along with it even after we planned on going together for a month now. Also I'm worried about what he said. Am I just taking all of this the wrong way?

No, you are taking it the right way.
It sounds like the old one year itch, and a chance to just check out the ski slope babes, plus saving face with his buddies, who would call him a ball and chain and a wuss for insisting that you go as planned, and maybe not let him go either.

Plans are plans, and he is wrong to let his buddies talk him out of yours. He should go with you to the same place, and you can all get together, right? No, because you'd be a fifth wheel. You should go to a different ski area. But that's all just 'shoulds.'

So.. what do you do? Tell him fine, you made plans of your own with YOUR best friends. Don't say what they are, but make some. (He sounds immature and I'd dump him, personally.)

Maybe he just needs some space... you said you moved back in with your parents... I'm sure that was upsetting to you boyfriend.He may just want to spend some time with his friends... that's how guys are.I wouldn't read too much into it... then you'll be upset.I would let him go be with his friends so the whole time he's there with them he gets to think about what you are doing or whom you are with.I guarantee you the next time he won't let his friend speak for him!

That's my opinion and we are all entitled to one.I really don't have much experience with young guys lol But he does sound kind of immature... and all young men play the field.Its what you do when you're young :) When he gets back talk him and express to him how much it upset you that you didn't get to go.Then plan something for the weekend for just the 2 of you.

Before you moved back with your parents, did you have your own place? If he has always lived with his parents, what were the problems that caused you to move back home. Did that have anything to do with him?

Why, for your birthdays did you want to spend the day with his friends snowboarding. And with that plan falling through with the 'no girls allowed', means all girls I presume, not just you.

What were the problems during the past three months with the relationship going downhill as you said, in addition to the change of plans for your birthdays. Maybe this is just 'one more thing' that is contributing to the overall health of the relationship itself.

My advice to you is to look past the obvious things that are happening, and while you are on your own, try to focus more on the overall relationship, and see if at the end of that assessment, there is enough love and communication to make things better, as opposed to this continuous decline as you've said.

It sounds like neither of you are quite sure where you want this relationship to go. If he wants to ACT single, then he should be CONSIDERED single.

When I was single, and in my twenties, I went on the all guy ski trips. Some of us behaved(not I), and some of us didn't. No girls were allowed then either. No way.

Has he done anything in the last year and a half to make you think that he wouldn't be faithful to you while he's away?

If not, then you should either give him the benefit of the doubt, or cut him loose.

It was wrong of him to "un-invite" you. And quite stupid of him to even suggest the possibility of ANYONE being on a quest to "get laid".

Talk to him about it, and find out where you two stand.

And by the way, happy birthday.

It sounds like you need to plan a "girls only" trip of your own.

Trust comes with love. If that's lost, then it's doomed.

This seems to be yet another thing to worry about in this relationship. Maybe its time to see if its even worth continuing. Canceling OUR plans, for someone else's plans, would be a deal breaker especially since it wasn't discussed, and all the reasonable options talked about. They gave you no choice did they?

Well don't give him one either. Do your own thing, and have fun with those that want to share that fun with you, and let him do his thing, with those he would rather enjoy it with.

That's fair to me. Why be an option? Just follow your own priorities, and be happy with what you are doing.