I try being there 24/7 for her but I think that's not enough.
What else can I do to make it a great relationship?

First of all you have to have confidence and do things on your own , like have a great job and make her feel secure by taking care of her , I'm not talking about buying her diamonds everyday, but a home , shelther , food , medicine in case you both get sick , you have to be a very confident man that works , and you both have to have a life outside of each-other sometimes , rarely , you have to have your own friends , and she has to have her own friends , if your not extremely wealthy and successful that's just how it goes , you have to have a date night if your away from each -other too long , but the confidence thing and just making her feel secure and being there no matter what , yet having a life of your own is not so hard . Just do it . Give her room too , give her so much room she'll hate it and be like " Babe?? Will you cuddle me I love you."... If you want that then be confident... a very confident man , even when you feel insecure and unwanted be confident , and if you are the man don't be a coward and stick around to argue or fight w/ her , this gives her no chance to think and feel sorry . We girls take things out on people around us sometimes , so just WALK AWAY < STAY AWAY UNTIL SHE CALLS YOU.. that's confidence and that's the magic of man . They are the ones who hold it together and be MEN . Your Welcome , Desire'e M.

Spice things up.. Surprise her! Girls don't just need a fella to be there! They need to be amazed! Do things you would never do. Make her want you more. Its easier than it sounds trust me. Think of things she loves that you may not agree on.. Do them if possible! That'll show her you care and give her some distance at the same time. This is handy cause she'll come crawling back. Girls always so.. Take if from a girl lol.

Don't be available all the time. Girls get bored with the guys whom are always there. It is boring.
We love to have a security but meanwhile we want to try for our men.
Being too available is not what we want, we want the love and the security.

Don't be available all the time. Girls get bored with the guys whom are always there. It is boring.
We love to have a security but meanwhile we want to try for our men.
Being too available is not what we want, we want the love and the security.


I don't think you are speaking for all women - I like a secure relationship, a man who is "here" today and will be "here" tomorrow. There is security in not having to "try" all the time.

Silly question. Why is this in the bereavement forum?