I am only 15 years old and pregnant. I don't have anyone to help me out. I need some advice for what to do and I need someone to talk to. I'm freaking out majorly!

I no that having sex is wrong I didn't no what to do it kind of just happened. I'm not slut or anything so please do not judge me or say **** and crap about me.

I'm 10 weeks pregnant already. I'm scared to do anything I just need some advice please help me!

Find a phonebook or go online for the nearest Planned Parenthood. They can advise about ALL your options and are everywhere, and if not near enough to you, they will know what type of place is - a clinic, etc. At your age, you should tell your mother. Please answer below if you won't do that.

Well where are your parents? Can't they help you out? Now if you didn't want to get pregnant, then you shouldn't have had sex. You are way to young to even be thinking about it. You had your whole life ahead of you and now, your life is going to be stressful and hard.
To answer your question, just sit your parents down and have a long talk with them like a mature adult. In the meanwhile, your not very long in your pregnancy and you could still get a job to save money. Good luck with everything and have a strong happy and healthy baby.

Have you seen a doctor? Have you decided if you're keeping the baby? Have you started prenatal vitamins? Have you told your parents? Have you told the father?

Right now the main thing is getting on prenatal vitamins (you can purchase them over the counter) and tell your parents.

Yes, they'll be shocked, they'll be angry, they may scream, cry, or a number of things. In the end, they're your parents, and hopefully they'll step up and help you through this.

You do have options, but some of the options are time sensitive. If you choose abortion, you will need your parents consent (in most places) because of your age. Also, you're 10 weeks along. Most places won't do an abortion after the first trimester is over, so this is something you should think about if abortion is something you're considering.

There's also adoption. Planned Parenthood can help you with these decisions. They have counselors you can talk to to help you choose what you want to do.

Of course option 3 is having and keeping the baby. Think long and hard about this. You're 15. You likely cannot support yourself, much less you and a child. There are programs available to help teen moms, but it won't be easy, no matter how much help you get.

So, tell mom and dad, get on the vitamins, talk about what you want to do about this. We can help lead you in the right direction, or help once you've made a decision, but right now the next step is up to you.

Hey. I don't really have any connection with anyone. I'm not allowed to see my dad and hardly ever see my mum. I have no contact with the baby's father. This was a big mistake and I've got no idea about abortions or apdotion and I can't raise a baby.

Who else do I tell if I hardly ever see my mum and she don't care about me.

Hey.. I hardly ever see my parnets so they can't really help. I didn't no that it was happening until I relised during it. And there are hardly any jobs that I can have they are mainly all 16 and over. And thank you :)

Who is taking care of you? You're not old enough to be on your own.

Who is your legal guardian? That's who you have to talk to.

Ok, who do you live with a aunt ? A uncle, do you live in foster care, if you don't live with mom and dad you live with someone ?

Talk to the guardian who is over you, if your parents are not the ones who raise you.
You have told us who is not there, so who is.

Go to the nearest county clinic with the person who is your guardian, There are plenty of great care places, planned parenthood is not one of them, that is the last place I would send a young pregnant tenn.

Chuck, I don't know much about Planned Parenthood. We don't have them in Canada. I've always recommended them on this site because others have spoken highly of them.

Not to change the subject, but what's wrong with PP? Any particular reason you're not in favor of them? It would be good to know so I don't recommend them in the future.

I live at my mums. My mum is but she's working at night and comes bk at the day and I'm out during the day.

I live with a whole bunch of people at my mums but its compacated about who I'm getting lookedafter by
Wats planned parenthood? Is it like family planning?

What is planned parenthood. We don't have them in new zealand. I think we got family planning but I don't no what they do.

Ok, this is sort of important, stay home and talk to mom,
Mom does not work 24 hours a day, call her, go see her,

You pretended to be an adult by having sex, so now it is time to grow up and start taking responsibility for your actions. You need to start saying what you can't do and do some things,

1. talk to your MOM, now, today, pick up a phone and call her

2. I will assume you are in school at our age, talk to a couseler at school.
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I agree with Chuck, it's time to talk to mom about this.

You can't keep making excuses. This isn't going to go away. You're pregnant, there's a life growing inside of you. If you're going to carry this baby to term than you need to do the responsible thing and make sure it gets the best possible start you can give it. For that you need medical care, you need prenatal vitamins, you need to be seen regularly by your doctor.

If you decide on abortion, which is an option, than it will have to be soon. You start your second trimester in 2 weeks. I don't know of any abortion clinics that will do an abortion after it's gone to the second trimester. Maybe in New Zealand they do, but not where I am. So you need to tell your mom today, as soon as she comes home. Or call her, tell her that you need to talk to her, that it's important. You need to discuss all your options with her. You need to decide if you're carrying this baby to term, or if you're aborting it.

You can't just sit around doing nothing. This is a done deal. You can't wish this away. You're pregnant, and like it or not you do have to be mature enough to handle this.

This is what we adults mean when we tell you teens to wait for sex. This is why. There are consequences you just aren't ready for. Well, you're going to have to be ready, because you don't have a choice anymore.

Thanks. But like we never talk like it just turns into argueing. And atm we are on holidays and the new school year starts in about 2 or 3 weeks and I would prefer to keep the school out of it. And thanks for the links :)

How do I tell my mum?

Best method you and the boy go together and tell her.

Wost method, send her a text message on the phone,

But at this point even the worst method is better than not at all. She is going to find out, she is going to know when you start showing or when you start carrying a baby around.

Again, stop making excuses, just do it and get it over with

I don't know the guy. And bloody hellim not making excuses you don't get the position I am in.

Actually more than you know, things are bad, won't get better, so the boy is not going to be there for you. Not the first time that happened either.

We do understand the position you're in. I think you don't fully understand it.

Sweetie, you're 10 weeks pregnant. In 30 weeks you'll have a baby. Not a doll, not a puppy, not something you can just put in your backpack and forget about. A baby! A human being.

Do you really think your mom won't find out? She will. It's inevitable. The longer you wait the harder it's going to be.

I realize you're freaked out about this. If I was 15 and pregnant I would be freaked out too. The thing is, you can't do this on your own. You need an adult. The only adult in your life is your mom. So you have to tell her. Today. There's not set way to do this. There's no good way. You just have to sit her down and tell her. Be prepared that she'll probably be just as freaked out as you are. She may be mad. She may cry. But, once she calms down, hopefully her mothering instincts will kick in and she'll help you through this.

Have you given any though to what you want to do? You said you can't raise a baby. I've never met a 15 year old that could. But, the fact is you're having a baby. The baby is coming. So what are your plans?

You really can't put this off any longer. Talk to mom. Go from there. Keep us posted. Okay?

I'm confused ?

Bro hang on... I'm calling k?

bro hang on... I'm calling k?

Um, bro?

You're calling your mom? Good.

I have to go for a while. I'll be back in a few hours, so please keep posting. We're here to help in any way we can.

Just so you know, I'm not a bro. I'm female, and I have 2 kids of my own, one only 3 years younger than you. Also, once upon a time, a long time ago, I was 15, and I was no angel. So yes, I do understand. :)

Hahahaha yea and I'm kiwi we call anyone bro its just like saying oi lol I don't no if I'm an angel lol but OK.
Later bo :)

Sometimes people jump on very young women here out of concern, that's all, they really care.
It was nice of Fr Chuck to look for some NZ counseling help for you.
If you want to talk about why there are so many people in your home, and if someone in your home is the father and you are confused about whether you wanted to have sex to happen, please tell us.

I had to spread the rep Joy.

Joy is right. If there's anything on your mind, anything you feel you need to talk about, you can tell us.

This site is amazing. Not only are you anonymous here, but I can tell you that this site is full of the best people I've ever known. I would let my children come here and feel safe in knowing that they would get the best advice, they'd get help, compassion, and most importantly they'd be safe.

We have people that are actual counselors on this site. We have a wonderful nurse that just so happens to work in labor and delivery. We have a Doula. We have women that have been through teen pregnancy and have been where you are now.

If you need to talk than you're in the right place. You may not always get the advice you want to hear, but it's all from the heart, and it is all meant to help you through all of this.

I hope you come back.

If you do post and someone doesn't automatically answer, check back. Unfortunately we can't be on here 24/7 and there are different time zones etc. etc. But we will get back to you as soon as we can. :)

I am sorry, sometimes I am a little hard to understand, The main thing we want you to know is that we really do understand, the best we can anyway from what we are told here. And the other is that we do really care, none of us are paid, we all give of our personal time, to be on here to help people.

Yea I needta but I don't know what to say

Hahaha I went away lol. But my mum said that's its all up to me and that shell only give me money if I'm despreate

So.. please do come back after your sleep and tell us what the weird situation in your home is... if someone there is the father and he is older and talked you into sex... even if he's a teenager, your house should not be full of an assortment of people with no one keeping an eye on you.
I don't want to put stories in your head, just find out what it is you 'idk what to say.'
I am even more concerned about you after hearing your mother's reaction - saying it's all up to you? She said that?
If I were your neighbor, I'd invite you to live with me in a heartbeat.

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

First, can I ask you a favor? Would you mind scrolling down your page a little bit to the Answer box? It gives you a lot mor room to type your questions and responses.

I am the nurse that Altenweg was talking about. I deliver babies every day, so if you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask me.

Now, I need to know who all you are living with. How many adults and how many children.

I am very concerned about your mother's reaction. But I need to know how you told her. Did you tell her over the phone or face-to-face?

Umm yeah I don't really sleep lol and its like a massive house and **** and like yeah the guy at home rooted me. Yea she did but I don't know what to do.

@J_9

Ummmm what are you going to do?
And um there's 10 19 yr olds and there's me and my little sis and my mum and aunty.
Umm it was face to face at home. We don't have int at home so like I'm not even at home atm

Ummmm what are you going to do?
And um there's 10 19 yr olds and there's me and my little sis and my mum and aunty.
Umm it was face to face at home. We don't have int at home so like I'm not even at home atm

What are we going to do? We can listen. We can give you advice. Everything else is up to you.

What did you think we could do when you came here?

Ok, I get the feeling you are hiding something, exactly what type of home do you live in, is it a shelter, a youth center,
And if there is no interent there, where are you getting on the internet.

You keep telling us what can't be done, or why things will not work, but will not give us enough info.
I will get some heat for this, but I am about ready to close this thread unless you are willing to open up and tell us what is readlly going on.

What ?
Your thingy confused me

How do u close the thread?
And nah its just a home like a normal home with lots of people.
What would you like more info about?

Please don't close the thread

I can close the thread because I am one of the Super moderators on the site. If I feel that the poster is not being honest and up front, or if they are playing games, ( not really wanting help) or for violation of rules, we may close a thread.

A normal house does not have ten 19 year olds, or was it a 10 year old and a 19 year old, but then you have you and your sis and mom,

So who are the other people, how are you related, Do you rent.

Why are there 10 19 year olds? How are they related to you?

This isn't a home like a normal home.

You need to come clean and give us all the info.

This sounds more like a group home.

SuperModerators like Chuck and myself can close threads.

Please stop using the comments feature to respond. Scroll down to the Answer box.

If I use the answer boxes you guys don't answer bk how do you quote it?

OK... umm I'm not sure if we rent. But it's a 3 story house and me and my sis live up stairs and the 19 yr olds live downstairs and I think my mum live rite up top. Stays not live. And they are my brothers mates we have nowen them for ages

Because they live there they and they are my brothers mates. We have knowen them for like ages.

Wt info would u like to know?

Try writing in complete words. If you're old enough to be pregnant you can stop using chat speak. It makes it really hard to understand your posts.

First, is the father of your baby one of these 19 year olds? Does he know you're pregnant? Was the sex consensual? Even if it was at your age and his, depending on where you live, he's guilty of statutory rape.

What are you going to do about the baby? Have you decided whether you're going to keep it, have an abortion, give it up for adoption? You need to start thinking about these things, because only two of those options can be done later, one needs to be done pretty soon. You can't wait forever.

Is your mom helping you at all? Is she going to take you to a counselor to discuss what you can do? Is she going to take you to a doctor? You may be pregnant, but she's still your mother and she's responsible for your care.

The OP has been asked not to use the comments feature and not to type in text/chat speak.

Should this continue, this thread WILL be closed.

All future correspondence by the OP must be responded in the Answer box and complete words and sentences must be used as required by the TOS of the site.

@Altenweg
Yes and he nos but I'm to scared to talk to him about it.
And I'm going to fp on Monday about it

J_9

OK sorry.

FP? Again... complete words and sentences. This is not a chat room.

J_9

Sorry. That's just what we all could it here.
Family planning

It may be what you call it there, but this is a world wide website. We don't all know the terms where you live.

Also, most of us are adults with children your age and older. We don't all understand chat/text speak.

Again, this is not a chat room where you have to type quickly to get your thought in. It is a message board where you can take your time to type correctly to get the entire message out.

So, let me guess, DeeScaredd is your friend who is in the same position as you except you are 10 weeks pregnant and she is 5 weeks. You both live in the same household?

Correct? Look, don't try to pull the wool over our eyes. We are smarter than that.

For those that are curious...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/child-teen-health/15-years-old-pregnant-help-544196.html

We will be as honest with you as you are with us. We don't like people wasting our time, breaking the rules, lying to us. We volunteer here because we care, so either be honest or go find someplace else to play.

I was more than willing to be here for you during all of this. I was more than willing to help any way that I could. Now I'm done with it.

If you want to play games, play them with your baby once it's born. You will not play them with me, because I will not allow you to.

You better start acting like an adult, even though you aren't one. You have 30 weeks before you're a mom. No more being a child and acting childish. This isn't going to go away, it's time to take responsibility for your actions, smarten up and figure out what you're going to do about this. It's not only your life on the line, the babies life hangs in the balance as well, and it doesn't have a choice. You do!

If you are willing to be honest, willing to work with us, willing to follow the rules of this site and stop beating around the bush, then I'll be here to do what I can. But, if you don't stop your childish ways I'm done as I'm sure the rest of us are as well.

So what's it to be?

@J_9

I don't know who that is?
Why would you think that it would be me?

That is actually really offenive I have no clue about that girl. She could be just as scared as I am and wanting help. Why would you actually accuse someone like that?

Freakedoutt, The person that posted under that other name is using the same computer you are. Super mods can see IP addresses. Are you going to hold on to that lie knowing you've been busted?

Obviously you aren't going to stop lying. That's a shame. We did give you every chance to be honest, and to help us help you. You don't seem capable of doing that, so I'm going to unsubscribe from this thread.

I won't waste my time on people that don't really want help, who just want to play games with us. I doubt anyone else will either.

I thought something was fishy when she was so vague about where she lived, and where her mom was. There is not a normal house where 10 teenagers live downstairs, and mom does not live upstairs, but stays there?

As I threatened, I am closing this, since my guess was right