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lalakers10
Jan 4, 2011, 01:54 AM
I've been dating this girl for a couple months now. She is 16 I am 22 her parents are threatening to call the cops on me. Can I get in trouble?

J_9
Jan 4, 2011, 02:23 AM
There is nothing illegal about dating... sex on the other hand... Well, it seems you are safe as the age of consent in Oklahoma is 16.

However, what in the world do you have in common with a 16 year old? You just want fresh meat?

My daughter is 17 and if any man/boy your age were to try and date her, he would be looking down the barrel of a shotgun held by my husband.

Why don't you date women your own age? Oh, I know... "She's mature for her age." Right? Yeah, we've heard that before.

So, no, while her parents can't call the cops on you, they can make her life, and yours, a living hell.

ScottGem
Jan 4, 2011, 04:51 AM
As noted, there are no laws on dating. However, A 16 yr old is still under the control of her parents. If you try to continue your relationship you may run afoul of laws dealing with the parent/child relationship.

I echo J_9's question. You are an adult, probably finishing college or maybe already working and living on your own. She is just getting into the dating scene and is more concerned with finishing HS and where to go for college. Drinking is illegal so that limits where you could take her. So it would seem that you would have little in common for a romantic relationship.

Do not pursue this. If you think there is a bond, wait 2 years until she is 18 and then see if there is enough to pick it up again. But yes, her parents CAN make serious trouble for you.

talaniman
Jan 4, 2011, 08:49 AM
The law may say one thing but the parents CAN call the cops, and keep you away from their daughter.

As long as they are responsible for her, they CAN make your life, and hers a living hell. What, will she sneak behind her parents back to see you? Lie about her where abouts? Disobey to be with you?

All these are contributing to the delinquency of a minor, and makes you fair game for the law. It makes her fair game for ANY reasonable punishment also including very close supervision, and intervention by the state on their behalf for bad behavior, or being uncontrollable by her parents.

So you may have the law on your side, but they have many options to pursue against YOU, and her. If they so choose, so don't think for a minute that you can hide behind the law, when it comes to going against mad, determined parents, who know their rights as parents, and have a legal, and moral obligation to protect their daughter. There are many laws on the books regarding consent by a minor, and before you go further with this, you better know them all.

Just so you know, her rights or yours cannot come before the parents rights to control or limit the activities of a minor. Maybe you cannot be jailed for statutory rape, but they can get an order of protection against you, and if you come near their daughter, you go to jail for contempt.

I strongly advise you to give this some thought, and see if jail bait is worth it, because some of us parents DO know THEIR rights, and will not hesitate to enforce them. Even if she runs away to be with you, guess who goes to jail, and gets the cops knocking on your door? Or your job??

Don't play with parents young fella, we will F***k you up. And love every minute of your misery. The age of consent is what Daddy says it is. Until she independent, your arse is mine, and if you don't believe me, ask a lawyer, and I bet you will think twice about messing with parents of a 16 year old girl. I advise you to take their threats seriously and stay out of their way.

lalakers10
Jan 4, 2011, 09:38 AM
We have a lot in common actually! We talked on the phone for months before we ever thought about getting together! I never thought I would be wit a girl this young either! If we didn't have nothing in common I wouldn't waste my time!

ITstudent2006
Jan 4, 2011, 09:42 AM
before we ever thought bout getting together!

I hope to god you're not sexually active with this girl.

kctiger
Jan 4, 2011, 10:15 AM
We have a lot in common actually! We talked on the phone for months before we ever thought bout getting together! I never thought I would be wit a girl this young either! If we didn't have nothing in common I wouldn't waste my time!

I'm not a parent so I am not as emotionally involved as some of the other posters on here. We have all become somewhat infatuated with people that, for one reason or another, we shouldn't pursue beyond a passing thought. I know that you may have a crush on this girl, but I think it would be best to walk away. There is nothing wrong with attraction and subtle flirting, but remember there are always consequences that come along with not thinking rationally before we act. I wouldn't want to face the consequences in this situation my friend.

In the words of Kenny Rogers, it's always good to "know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away and know when to fight." I'd choose the walk away option.

ScottGem
Jan 4, 2011, 10:30 AM
We have a lot in common actually! We talked on the phone for months before we ever thought bout getting together! I never thought I would be wit a girl this young either! If we didn't have nothing in common I wouldn't waste my time!

If you think you have a lot in common then you have some issues. 4 years is not a huge gap when both parties are adults. But it is when one or both is a minor. How long have you know her age? As soon as you found out you should have ended things.

talaniman
Jan 4, 2011, 10:41 AM
You mean in all the time you talked you never discussed all the problems there would be with her parents?? As the adult, shouldn't you be leading, and not following a... child??