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aria_E
Jan 3, 2011, 05:57 AM
I just had this horrible dream about me and my boyfriend's best friend got stuck in this cabin and it was snowing. We were good friends and all we had was the little food in the kitchen, a fire in the fire place, the clothes on our back, and a radio to reach the rangers station. I'm not sure how long we had been up there but it hadn't been that long. For some reason I had become really weak and cold he was hugging me trying to keep me warm by the fire place. He then whispered in my ear "I love you" he then kissed me.
Ever since that dream I feel very uncomfortable around him and I'm afraid to tell my boyfriend why I really don't want to go around him. Should I tell him or should I just keep it to myself

lvgmng
Jan 3, 2011, 07:46 AM
It is believed by some that dreams are an interpretation of subconsious mind and that they all mean something. Some would say either you or your boyfriends best friend or both have given the impression of an interest more than friendly. You say you now feel uncomfortable around him, is this really a new feeling or only a result of the dream you had. I do think dreams in some way can sometimes express what we ourselves are afraid to, but also they can be hard to interpret and hard to tell what they really mean. If you have never had feelings for him and he has never indicated he had any for you then I wouldn't let it bother me.

huno
Jan 3, 2011, 08:27 AM
Keep it to yourself, and understand it's only a dream. It has no bearing on your real life. Set it aside and forget about it.

(Now, if you actually do have feelings for this guy, or you think he has feelings for you IRL, that might change things, but only a bit. Still, don't say anything to your bf; it'll probably freak him out.)

Jake2008
Jan 3, 2011, 09:16 AM
Sometimes dreams will leave you, what I call, hungover. Even after the details of the dream fade, there is a residual effect, because everything seemed so real.

What has stuck, is the male in this picture. Why you avoid him is because of the intensity of the dream about him, and it still feels real.

It is not unlike people who have a dream about a plane crash, and its so real and vivid, that they cancel their flight the next day. Only after they learn there was no crash after all, do the feelings of intensity fade.

This will pass for you as well; these feelings will eventually fade. Perhaps too, as the others have said, there may have been feelings about this fellow that you didn't realize were more than friendship feelings. So, it is worth consideration that perhaps your friendship is now heading in another direction.

Either way, the dream will fade, and if there is anything to happen, it will all work out in its own time.