This never happened to me before, so I need you guys to help me out. It started with my fourth boyfriend. I only had sex once before all this happened and now as I am with my fourth we had sex also. Our relationship headed for the rocks, and I had another encounter with another guy but we didn't have sex or anything. He just gave me oral. But then after that, I ended up having sex with another guy that I'm currently seeing right now, and it wasn't protected. So I broke it off with my boyfriend. This is the first time I ever cheated in a relationship, so I felt so bad. Then while I'm seeing this guy, I had another guy I liked and we HAD A QUICKIE! It was not protected as well. I feel so bad for what I did, because I never did anything like this before. I just turned eighteen, and just started college and I feel so crappy. What do I do? I guess I just got caught in all the nonsense. A while ago I was just focusing on my work, but the last few weeks of the semester this happened? I feel so horrible

First thing you really NEED to understand... Unprotected sex CAN put you at risk for cervical cancer if you contract HPV which infected rates among the young are very high.

THere is also Syphillis, Ghonoreah, AIDS, Herpes... (the last two have no cure). ANd that's before we even discuss pregnancy which will severely alter your life forever.

THe fact you feel bad about this means you do have a concience... I'll going to guess alcohol might be involved, right?

You need to step up and take control of your life now before something happens you can't change. Its your body.. YOU control what it will and won't do.

Let me sum it it in a way that might help give you strength to do the right thing.

Do you want to finish College, get a really nice job, find another nice guy that also has a good job and live a life mostly free of money problems... or would you preffer option B. Where you continue... have a child in the next year or two... possible contract herpes... have to work at walmart as you struggle to raise your kid as a single mom after the father takes off to parts unknown. Forever holding you in the class of the working poor.

Visualise those two life paths... and remember them the next time you have the urge to do something dumb.

Remember doing things like this you are effectively playing Russian Roulette (look it up if you don't know what it is). Because its not a matter of if, but when the bullet will land in the chamber and your life as you know it is over.

I know you feel bad... but nothing as yet has happened that will ruin your life... but it can the next time. You still have a chance to put this behind you... don't waste the opportunity.

Thank you so much for the advice I have not been doing anything dumb since that happened. I just like one guy that I'm seeing and it is not serious. Like I said this never happened before and I'm stopping it before it gets even worse

I really don't drink or do drugs though

Good... and don't. You WILL see many of your friends ruin their lives in the next few years of college before you graduate thanks to drugs and alcohol. Don't follow them down that path. I've been through College.. it was true when I went and its still true now.

Everyone makes dumb moves in their life... many of us luckily get a second chance to learn from them and not do them again... some aren't as lucky.

The smart people learn from their mistakes... the dumb ones keep repeating them.

I really don't know why I made this dumb mistake, but like I had to express my feelings about it. I really couldn't talk to my parents because they are unreasonable so I had to vent about it. For me, of course I get tempted and stuff but I never really act on temptation until that time. A lot of times I'm busy doing work or working on my career but sometimes the sexual temptation occurs, you know?

It helps to vent or bounce things off people who don't know you personally.

You are always going to have temptation... trick is learning to control it. And knowing you don't have to give into it or even want to most of the time.

Like I said... clearly in a gut level you know what you did was wrong... go with those feelings here. You will come to know when your gut tells you something isn't right... its not often wrong. You appear to have a good moral compass... just that your relatively newfound freedom is overcoming your common sense and moral compass.

Peer pressure will get you in trouble far more often than it will do anything good for you. Have the courage to do what YOU feel is right... and you have a HUGE head start in a productive life when you finish school that many of your friends won't have.

Thankies

Great advice and follow through with her, smoothy. Had to spread the rep.


Also lalala, even using protection, you risk pregnancy.

I got pregnant using protection by a man who ide been seeing for a while, who I thought was in love with me. He now doesn't have anything to do with her. I don't mind, she is beautiful and he is missing out. He can eat sh1t and die for all I care.

I don't want to see that happen to you at such a young age.

I'm glad you asked us for advice. You still have a chance to accomplish good things.

Focus on college and less about sex. You will have plenty of time to have sex, or as I call it making love. Because I believe that people shouldn't make love until they are in love.

Also, you don't want to get a bad name for yourself. You don't want to be known as a tramp or a slut. You're better then that. You're young and have a your whole life ahead of you.

So enjoy that.

Hope this helps.

Thanks so much!