My boyfriend has been acting a little weird lately, I went on vacation to NY recently to visit my dad and brother who was home from afganistan for Christmas, I told him that I'd be gone for about two weeks and before I left he was really sweet about it saying that he'd miss me and stuff and I told him I'd text him while I was away, we cnt talk on the phone a lot because my phone sucks and I can barley hear him on it, so I leave and I don't hear from him for a few days, I found this weird because he would usually texts me everyday or everyother day, so I decide to text him and I just say "hey" and his response was "what?" I was a little upset at this because I just wanted to say hi after not hearing from him for a few days, so I send him " nothin I just wanted to say hi, what?" and I haven't heard from him since, we've only been dating for about a month and he's my first boyfriend and he's usually very sweet, So is he kind of being a jerk or am I just paranoid?

Why did you go a few days without contacting him? That could be upsetting to a boyfriend you left behind. He needs reassurance that you miss him and haven't forgotten him. I think a text when you arrived would have been the way to go, so make up for it now.

Your not a jerk, or paranoid, you just didn't know. Now you do.

Thanks for the tip, The reason I didn't contact him because I didn't want to seem clingy, his last girlfriend was very clingy and got jealous very easily, and I just didn't want to seem that way to him thanks again :)

Don't worry about his last girl, be THE girl NOW!!

Ok this is gonna be a long one but its important that you know the details about this so here we go.

About a month ago I started dating this guy that I really liked, He first told me that he liked me on thanksgiving while i was in NY visiting my dad we had been texting each other for about 5 hours, most of that time was me trying to get him to just say that he liked me cus when ever i asked him who he liked he'd just say "someone :)" I knew he was teasing me and that it was me that he liked but i just wanted to have him say it for himself so I could be sure, and by the 5th hour he finally told me. once i got back he came over to my house for a little while, it was really nice, while we were watching a movie he was jokingly teasing me about something,i forget what, and he gently poked me in the side where im very tickelish, once he discovered this he started tickeling my sides, I didnt mind it at all, I actually thought it was cute. after that he put his arm around me and i laid my head on his chest and we coudled for the first time.

We went on a few movie dates after that all of them involving us cudling in the movie theatre and sharing candy. he use to text me everyday, my phone sucks cus i can barley hear him on it so we text most of the time, saying that he thought i was pretty and sexy and all that sweet stuff and id say the same kind of things back to him. we also liked to send pics of us each other. we kissed for the first time while we were on a double date with our friends, who are also a couple, I was sitting on his lap with my arms resting on his shoulders and we looked at each other and we both kinda leaned into each other and kissed, nothing special just a qucik one, but it was really nice and it happened 4 more times that night and when it was time for him to bring everyone home he gently grabed my hand and we held hands all the way back to the car and until he brought me home and we kissed goodbye. the next week we went on another double date with our friends and we went to the movies, and we coudled during the movie and kissed once,

He's my first boyfriend so im still learning how to kiss well, and again it was a really nice night and after the date when my friends boyfriend was bringing home, when we got to my house I went to get his birthday/christmas present that i made for him, a really cool drawing of a fighter jet, im an artist and he really likes planes, when i showed it to him and he really liked it and gave me a kiss and we hugged and I told him id miss him while I was away, I was leaving for NY for 2 weeks to visit my dad and brother who was coming home from afganistan for christmas. I told him this 2 weeks before i left and he said all these sweet things about how much he'd miss me and stuff. and i said the same and promised id text him while i was away.

And that's where the trouble started, I hadn't herd from him the first few days I was away, which was weird because I'm use to him texting me at least everyother day, I just figured he was just busy so I brushed it off, I didn't text him because I didn't want to seem clingy, his last girlfriend was extreamlly clingy and jealous and I just didn't want to be like that. So after a few days of not hearing from him I decide to text him to say hi so I did and his response was "what?" he's never been mean to me before so I was hurt by this and I said "nothing I just wanted to say hi what?" I didn't here back from him till 2 days after when I got a text from him saying we needed to talk, so we did and it turned out he was mad at me because I didn't contact him those first few days I was gone, so I told him I was sorry and we worked it out, the next day I text him just to talk to him and we did for a while, around 10:30 I felt that the conversation was coming to an end because at that point we were just sending smilie faces and saying haha to each other so I say to him "alright, im going to bed goodnight" and he thought it was rude of me to say that, and aparently I things like that a lot when I feel the conversation has ended, I get annoyed at this but since our relationship was still a little rocky at that point I just say I'm sorry and that id be more considerat then on.

Then yesterday he asked me to talked to his ex girlfriend because she won't leave him alone, at first I say yes and that id see what I could do, but after thinking about it I told him I didn't want to do it anymore because I thought that it was between him and her and she probably wouldn't listen to me anyway, and finally the thing that got me the most upset that makes me want to beat him with a large stick, when I checked Facebook this morning I saw a post that he wrote saying "wow...in the long run they're all the same, horray for being single" I am one step away from calling him up and yelling at him till my throat gets soar asking what the heck is going on with him I NEED HELP PLEASE!!
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I don't think you should break up I think you should talk more every relationship has its ups and downs its good and bad time right now its your down after this hopefully will be better

Well he showed his true character quickly, and he seemed so great at first didn't he. You tried, and it didn't work, and you learned something about him. Now what to do? You can wait a few days and see if he cools off, or just consider yourself dumped by a very immature guy with a short fuse.

He had no business involving you with his ex, that's his business to handle, so you are right, but you have seen him act weird twice, actually he over reacted both times, and for sure he will again.

How old are you both?? Naw, I see more drama than fun,if you try to stick with him, and who needs that?? Got to be better guys to date, and just because this was your first boyfriend, it doesn't mean it will be the last, and hardly the best. Cut this one loose because its guaranteed to get worse.

Additionally, your threads were merged together and no need starting another one about the same thing, just update and reply on this one.

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You are a young woman with a hole world to explore, full of good fun men that you don't have to snoozle into liking you on a first date. Guys who are mature and fun, who have actual intelligent things on their mind to talk about. Don't get stuck on a kid who seems nice, but is this immature.

Talk to a lot of guys, and see if you can connect on a intellectual level, honestly, and openly. Can enjoy each others company, and be friends, and take your time to know them enough to see if they are worthy to be your boyfriend.

Save the lovey dovey kissing and smooching for some one that deserves it. Not some petulant kid who gets all carried away by it, but can't express himself honestly to you as a close friend should, but has hissy fits when things don't go his way. That's not a man, not yet any way, he has a long way to go.

So do you to be honest, if you think a good connection is being all over a guy to make him like you. Go slower, and be more careful with whom you chose to share yourself with, and take the time to talk and actually know who you are dealing with, so you can both share more than just your bodies.

This experience should show you the importance of going slow and not just wading in without thinking because strong feelings of attraction can get you some handsome strangers who have many issues, but are nice to look at, but hard to deal with.