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djkalpesh11
Dec 20, 2010, 01:41 AM
Earliar she loves me, dn after she said that was not love it was just attraction
Bt still she says she don't want to lose me as friend
She still share each and evarything in her life to me, but I love her a lot, I am not getting what she thiks about me as lifepartner or not

tickle
Dec 20, 2010, 03:28 AM
Please don't write in text speak, it is not acceptable here.

Now, on to your problem. It sounds like you are dealing with an immature personality who has to learn some life lessons before entering into a permanent monogamous relationship. You and she are definitely not on the same page. Is she a lot younger then you?

Tick

Jake2008
Dec 20, 2010, 03:51 AM
She has told you that she doesn't have romantic feelings toward you anymore. She is being honest and telling you that she doesn't love you. If she prefers to have you as a friend, rather than a boyfriend, that means she does not see you as a life partner.

When it is that clear, and she has told you how she feels, and that a romantic relationship will not happen, you can only assume she knows what she wants, and what she doesn't want.

The end of a relationship is never easy, especially when your feelings are very different from what hers are, but, it is what it is.

Try to accept that what she says, she means.

talaniman
Dec 20, 2010, 06:55 AM
I very much agree with Jake as her feelings have changed toward you, and she no longer wants to be your girlfriend, or wants romance, just a friend to talk to, and still share with from time to time. Not a life partner.

Of course you don't understand how that could be because your feelings HAVE NOT changed toward her, and you WANT a future.

It's a break up, pure and simple, and you have to accept it, and deal with the shock, and be able to leave the notion of romance with her as an impossible thing. It happens to us all, and its hard to go through, even though we all do, and you must change your thinking, and deal with those feelings so you can respect her wishes, and keep your dignity, and self respect by handling yourself maturely.

She still likes you, just not enough for true love forever. It sucks, and maybe you will need time to wrap your head around it, and fully accept this change, but take time to do so, and don't make the mistake we all do sometimes with the begging, and crying for her to change her mind, and take you back. That's disgusting really, and shows her your worst side, and never works any way. And don't fall into the trap if you hang around, and be friendly, she will take you back, that's false hope that will really hurt when she starts doing her thing with others. Instead, do your own thing, and let time, and distance heal you, and help you move on.

Read the stickies (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/), and learn that you are not alone, we all have to go through a break up at one time or another, some of us a few times, and learn how best to handle it.

Sorry guy for your loss, I know first hand, it sucks, but it will get better. You can't see that now, but eventually, you will.

guitarteacher18
Dec 20, 2010, 08:49 AM
Before I really answer, I just have to ask, How old are you? And how old is she?