View Full Version : I like my best friend that is a girl, how do I get her to like me
ShyTeenGuy
Dec 18, 2010, 12:09 AM
She sits with me sometimes on the bus, we talk all the time about things going on (in person and on facebook), and I can't tell if she likes me
Whenever I'm around her I feel weak, I get chills, and I can hardly look her in the eye with out my face turning red or having nothing to say
What should I do to see if she likes me more than a friend
if she does... she hides it well =)
ITstudent2006
Dec 18, 2010, 12:12 AM
You should never try to get a girl to like you. That usually means you're going out of your way to do things or be things that you're not usually doing. Thus, you're not being yourself.
Being yourself is the best advice I can give.
Why don't you ask her? Can I ask how old you are?
mmresd
Dec 18, 2010, 01:24 AM
Lol hopeful I see :)... only way to find out if she likes you is to ask her man, so gather up some courage and just go for it, you have nothing to lose, but something to gain, sounds like a good deal to me :)
Good Luck,
Javi
joypulv
Dec 18, 2010, 04:19 AM
I don't agree with asking someone if they like you. That puts them on the spot.
I think you are doing fine, since you are friendly even if shy. There's nothing wrong with shy; some of us really like it. Just keep being an interesting and interested person as you have been. You can ask her a little more about herself, such as family and pets and what she was like when she was little, and books and movies and music. A little compliment here and there, 'Hey, is that new? I really like it.' Being interested, casual compliments - the 2 best ways to let someone know. THEN if it feels right, you can ask her to walk downtown for a soda or if you can sit together at a game or study together.
ITstudent2006
Dec 18, 2010, 11:04 AM
I don't agree with asking someone if they like you. That puts them on the spot.
I think you are doing fine, since you are friendly even if shy. There's nothing wrong with shy; some of us really like it. Just keep being an interesting and interested person as you have been. You can ask her a little more about herself, such as family and pets and what she was like when she was little, and books and movies and music. A little compliment here and there, 'Hey, is that new? I really like it.' Being interested, casual compliments - the 2 best ways to let someone know. THEN if it feels right, you can ask her to walk downtown for a soda or if you can sit together at a game or study together.
So you're content with sitting back and HOPING something good comes of it? Before long you're in the friend category and will never be anything more!
Stop wondering and living your life in hope that she will notice. Take charge of the situation before you're put in a position to do nothing!
joypulv
Dec 18, 2010, 11:39 AM
I have a feeling IT and mm are male... I'm female.
Regardless, I think there is a huge difference between telling someone you like them and asking them if they like you.
Sure, say you like her.
But is this the right stage for that? I'm not so sure, in this case, it's time yet.
AND I stand by my statement to never put anyone in the position of having to answer the question 'do you like me?'
Especially FIRST. Ugh
talaniman
Dec 18, 2010, 01:17 PM
Ask her for her phone number so you can talk to her privately, and get to know her and see how receptive she is. Nothing wrong with being shy as long as you are friendly, and nothing wrong with being friends first.
Many crushes, and attractions will lead to friendship, and not dating, or romance (teen romance), so she if she wants to talk to you over the phone, that's a good indication whether she likes you, or not. (unless of course her parents don't allow it, but that's not her fault, nor should you take it personally).
Asking for her number is a good way to deal with your shyness. You already talk when you are around each other so you must be comfortable to some extent, so just keep talking about all kind of stuff.
ITstudent2006
Dec 18, 2010, 02:34 PM
I have a feeling IT and mm are male...
You are correct! But... this is less of an issue with gender and more about personal preference.
ShyTeenGuy
Dec 19, 2010, 10:58 PM
Yeah I'm 15
ITstudent2006
Dec 20, 2010, 08:46 AM
I was merely stating that it doesn't matter what gender you are in this situation. Male or female my advice wouldn't change. That's all I was saying.