I met this boy in the fourth grade, I'll call him Zane (not his real name). I began to like him in the fifth grade. Ever since, I have had the BIGGEST crush on him. We are both now in the ninth grade and I still like him. My problem, he's never EVER showed any interest in me. EVER. But one of my friends convinced me to tell Zane about my feelings. I was afraid to do so, because last year a girl had told him that she liked him and then gone all psycho on the girl that he had liked at that time. He broke off his friend ship with her and refused to speak to her. But, he took my telling him well. He smiled, patted me on the head, and told me he didn't hate me. A few weeks later, I thought I no longer had strong feelings about him. I told Zane that I didn't like him anymore, and he believed me. Unfortunately, I was VERY wrong. A few weeks after I told Zane of my un-liking him, he and I and a group of our friends attended our school's homecoming dance. Zane and I met up with some of the sophomores from our orchestra. They pulled him off (let me mention now that Zane is VERY attractive, not just to me but to MANY girls. He is strong, funny, smart, handsome, nice. An all around great guy, plus his wicked six-pack abs.) to dance. He started grinding (The rubbing of the girls backside against the guys crotch) with one girl in particular, lets call her Sally. She was his stand partner in our orchestra. I felt the green head of jealousy rise in my chest. But as I got to know Sally, I liked her. She was a nice person and I was happy that Zane had taken an interest in someone as amazing as her. But, slowly, they drifted. They had never officially dated, kissed, or anything of the like. But Sally's affection to Zane dwindled, and she lost interest. Zane, accepted the distance slowly, but he did accept it. Tonight, however, Zane and I, along with a small group of our friends, attended another school dance. We also met up with some of the girls from our orchestra. But Sally was not among them. Another girl, however, (lets call her Sam) wasted no time in extracting him from us and grinding with him for the entire evening. I was jealous when I saw them together, as I don't know Sam very well, but when the dj played a slow song, I felt hurt. Not just a regular jealous feeling, but pain. It felt like someone had ripped out part of my heart. I wanted to cry so badly. And, upon returning home, I did so. And have not yet stopped. I don't know what to do. I really like this guy, but I don't want to tell him that I do AGAIN, for fear that it'll ruin our friendship. I want him to like me very badly, but I don't want to be someone I'm not. I'm so confused. Can anyone help me? Any advice to give?

What you have to realize is that you have told Zane that you no longer like him. So whether he likes you or not it's superfluous because he's under the impression you have no ffelings for him.

In a relationship or a wishful one, or life in general, communication is key. Without you telling him you still have feelings there will be no way he'll ever know. Whether he likes you too and something becomes of it or not, I know I usually feel better after I release my feelings.

I just don't want you to regret making that move. Before long you'll be at graduation day and you and Zane will be going in different directions and you'll never know what could have happened... unless you tell him now!

Well, when I told him the first time that I liked him, he didn't say he had any feelings for me. And I think telling him that I do now, would just make things awkward between us.

Well, there is no way to know unless you do. Akward or not at least you get it off your chest!

If you don't want to tell him the truth than forget about him, because nothing will ever happen between you.

Are you two still friends? If so, that's likely all you'll ever be. You told him that you dodn't like him anymore. Would you ask someone out that specifically told you that they're not interested in you?

You either take the risk, be real to yourself, and tell him, or you leave things the way they are and move on.

Those really are your only options.

I know it's scary to tell someone you have feelings for them when you're not sure they feel the same way. But, one thing I've learned in my life is that risks, although scary, are the only way to get ahead. Will he throw his arms around you, proclaim his undying love? I don't know. Neither do you. There's only one way to find out.

Wouldn't you rather know either way? This could turn into something special if you just take the risk.

Good luck.

Thanks for the advice guys, I think I just might tell him. :)

Tell him how you feel trust me the same situation is for a lot of girls out there so if you tell him NOW then you will be speared a lot of regret

It's very tough soget confident and GO GIRL!!