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marga125
Jan 9, 2007, 07:56 PM
My boyfriend just broke up with me after 8 months of dating. He said he wants to be with me, but he is sure he does not want to marry me so its only fair if we break up. He has no reason why he does not want to marry me--its just his gut feeling. He is not sure if he loves me, and feels like if he does not love me after 8 months then he must not. He feels like the feelings should be there already. He has pulled back once or twice before but always ended up coming back because is happy with me. He says that there is nothing wrong with the relationship--he has never been happier and has a great time with me--we want the same things, have a lot in common, never fight. He also sat down and planned our life together and did not reject the happy image he saw. He has made several comments about us buying a home, starting a business and having a wedding. He definitely wants to get married and be in a relationship, according to him. He was with a girl on and off for 8 years, they eventually got engaged and he called it off. He has specific reasons for ending the relationship, but this back and forth seems to be his pattern. He just feels like breaking up is the right thing to do and does not want to hurt me. I told him that I thought the marriage discussion was premature, and that I just wanted to be with him. He did not really believe me. I told him that I thought he was making a mistake and that he would regret this. I also asked him repeatedly if there was anything else he needed to tell me, any other information. I am refusing to see or talk to him right now although I am devastated. I am mostly sad because it feels wrong to me and there are really no reasons. So, my question is, will he come back? I am only willing to be in a relationship with him if he is fully present and is willing to seriously consider marrying me.

rudro
Jan 9, 2007, 11:03 PM
All is clear to him about u. So he will come back if he can set his mind to marry u. But if he don't why u should be so disheartened? I think there is some problems with him to marry u or I'm sorry to say he was with u only for your body not for your mind. Bcoz he never clear his position to u. So try to forget him.

AKaeTrue
Jan 9, 2007, 11:54 PM
Are you stressing the commitment of marriage to him? If so , it could be freaking him out a bit. Some people don't like feeling pressured or rushed into something as sacred as marriage. They like to take it slow.
Being that he was with the other woman for eight years kind of indicates that he may be on the slow end of the marriage decision making.
My husband and I were together 4 years before we got married - nothing wrong with waiting...

talaniman
Jan 10, 2007, 06:28 AM
8 months is a little too soon, to me, to consider marriage, and its too much pressure on a mind that soon. A year or to is better. You are still getting to know each other after 8 months. I think he thinks so also, and is not ready for that next step. How about backing off that marriage thing and if he does come back go back to having fun and getting to know each other.