During summer I met a guy, we became good friends , I had girlfriends in the past, he has a girlfriend they've been together for five years or so, so me and this guy started to go out to clubs parties and he never invited his girlfriend he would tell her that he was tired and was going to sleep which I thought it was weird, he ask for my cell number and we used to text for hours, one night we were both drunk and we started to make out , we kissed , I gave him oral sex which he seemed to enjoy he did not push me back or asked me to stop, the next day he claimed he did not remember anything anyway after that we did not text as much as we did before, but I still see him and have contact with him, 4 months after this happens we went out to a bar and started drinking, when we go in to his car we started talking about what happened that time, he admits that after that he was confused about his sexuality, that he does not know why he kissed me back, he told me I'm not gay or bi I'm straight but if you are I don't have a problem , you are one of my best friends, he told me if you want to touch me or suck me off go ahead ,he is always saying negative things about gay people, and he claims he could get any girl he wants! Im really confused about him I don't know if we still should be friends, is he gay bi? He is still with his girlfriend, maybe because he was the first guy that I kissed I'm confused ,any advice helps

He's straight, and using you.

What do you mean using me? for what

He doesn't have a girlfiend (that you have actually seen)... and in his mind at least... you getting him off is better than him getting himself off.

Have you met his girlfriend? Do you have proof she exists?

If she does or doesn't exist really doesn't matter except to determine if he is a cheater as well as a liar.

I am sorry to say this but from what you have written this man has 'groomed you' to be his playmate. He knows what his sexuality is. He is adept at turning it around to where his getting off is a 'gift' to you. What are you actually getting out of it? Alcohol? Companionship?

I'd dump this 'friend' and let him move on to the next person. I doubt you are the first. I don't think you will be the last. I think you can do better than this person. I think if you give yourself a chance, you can find someone who actually cares about you.

Is it your own sexuality you are curious about?

I do know her girlfriend

I do know her girlfriend

HER girlfriend?

He is gay or bi and INCREDIBLY insecure. Get rid of this fool. He is not straight.

Are you gay or bi? As a bi woman, my advice is to not mess around with "confused" people--they're only good for heartache.

Yeah I have met her girlfriend... And that's my plan to get as far from him as I can I just don't know how:(?

Sorryyy hisgf haha