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cutebabe
Dec 10, 2010, 11:40 AM
I love a guy, whom I told him how am feeling, he told me that he's so sorry that the feeling isn't mutual. However, we're friends now, so we went to a party together, he was a little bit drunk.. we spent the whole night kissing and hugging each other.. he didn't only kiss my lips but by neck and forehead.. he touched my body too, played with my hair, and hugged me so strongly ! I was so happy for sure.. I thought he wanted to tell me he loves me too.. but the next day, he told me he was drunk and can't remember! What does this mean? Did alcohol caused him to act exactly like his true feelings? I need to know, why do you think he did that ? And again we're good friends now..

I wish
Dec 10, 2010, 01:14 PM
He ALREADY KNOWS how you feel. If he wanted something to happen, you would be the first to know. But it doesn't sound like he wants anything serious with you.

Unfortunately, you are setting yourself up for disappointment by staying friends with him in hopes that he may one day change his mind and have the same feelings for you.

If you can't handle a simple friendship with him, without the false hope, then you're only going to drag out the misery. He only wants to be friends, can you handle that?

cutebabe
Dec 10, 2010, 01:33 PM
I can't stay away from him, I've tried getting away, and not talking to him for a year but couldn't handle it.. I was totally miserable. Now, while we talk I just feel he's someone else, as if he's not the same person I love and am comfortable. But when we get apart for few days I miss him ! I like him always to be there.. if we get apart, I don't know if I can live without him ! It's been 4 yrs and am loving him.. yes I believe that one day, he might change his mind.. I felt he has some feelings that he doesn't want to show.. and sometimes, when we hang out with friends, his actions are strange, he doesn't act normally ! Forget to tell you he's shy too.. I just dn know, am confused and.. am just wondering, if it wasn't me whom he went with to that party.. would he do the same?! Kissing and huggin another girl in such passion?

I wish
Dec 10, 2010, 01:36 PM
I'm not sure how long you plan on waiting for him, but 4 years is a very long time. Again, he already knows how you feel, so the ball is already on his side of the court. If he wanted something to happen, he would let you know.

Maybe he will change his mind in the future, but forcing him to like you now isn't going to do anyone any good.

If you decide to continue to be patient, then I suggest you focus on having fun with him and keep getting to know each other better. Let things develop naturally, no more forcing the issue with him.

cutebabe
Dec 10, 2010, 01:47 PM
Well, am not forcing him.. am acting as if I forgot him, and as if we are friends.. he doesn't know that am still in love, and am loving him more everyday.. but I want to show him how much I love him through knowing him more.. he's amazing, so kind, so sweetheart, he's not willing to hurt me.. he told me he's not willing to lose me.. he loves talking to me, but the only problem I guess is that am older than him by one year. And he didn't finish his education yet.. he needs 6 more years.. and I think that's y he's not thinking of anything right now ! Thanks for helping anyway