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plzanswr
Dec 4, 2010, 03:19 PM
I'm 16 and my girlfriend is pregnant and 4 months she is 16 I want to move out.. but my calls the cops every time I leave the house she knows my girlfriend is pregnant so do her parents I want to move out am I considered emancipated cause I'm going to be a dad?

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2010, 03:23 PM
ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area.

In some areas a mother can become emancipated when she becomes pregnant. But I don't of any that apply that to the father. You should be happy you aren't being charged with statutory rape.

plzanswr
Dec 4, 2010, 03:29 PM
I'm in California

J_9
Dec 4, 2010, 03:45 PM
You can't move out until you are 18 or married with your parent's consent.

You are not emancipated until you go through the court system.

Do you have a full time job? Can you support yourself without the help of anyone?

Blackula
Dec 4, 2010, 04:41 PM
To become emancipated, you would have to show that being freed from your parents is in your best interests. By getting a 16-year-old pregnant and repeatedly running away from home, you have pretty much bombed any possibility of that. What you would need to do to become emancipated: 1) Marry your girlfriend, which also establishes your parental rights. 2) Attain economic self sufficiency by earning enough of an income to maintain a household and support two dependents. 3) Demonstrate academic achievement, that you are capable of graduating high school, and are likely to attend college.

All in all, to become an emancipated minor, you would need to become a tremendously responsible and conscientious person, at which time I expect your parents would be more comfortable with you making these decisions anyway.

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2010, 04:56 PM
1) Marry your girlfriend, which also establishes your parental rights.

Seems highly unlikely since that would require parental approval for both of them.

plzanswr
Dec 4, 2010, 05:11 PM
Can i marry my gf without having my parents preventing me from marring her?

cdad
Dec 4, 2010, 05:17 PM
No you have to get their permission.

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2010, 05:20 PM
Please don't start multiple threads over the same issue. And please don't type in all caps.

And no you cannot get married without parental consent. In addition CA law requires court approval over and beyond parental consent.

If you have a follow-up question please use the Answer options, not the Comments.

Blackula
Dec 4, 2010, 05:57 PM
That's the point. 1-3 are all highly unlikely for this guy. Ergo, "All in all, to become an emancipated minor, you would need to become a tremendously responsible and conscientious person . . ."

Fr_Chuck
Dec 4, 2010, 06:15 PM
Your parents want what is best for you, where do you want to "go to" her house and move in with her ?

Let her have the baby, and be a father to the child. If this is what is suppose to be, then in a couple years you can move in together.

Your parents are trying to protect you from another in a series of poor choices

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 01:05 PM
I want to move out from my moms house and I'm 16 if I get married can I move out I know I have to get a letter signed by her I will do that but will I be able to move out?

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 01:17 PM
Why do you want to move out?

justcurious55
Dec 11, 2010, 01:20 PM
1) we need to know what state you are in to know the laws.

2) why do you want to move out? Because that's really why you want to get married, right? I don't think there's any nice way to put this, so I'm just going to be blunt. Getting married to move out is a stupid, stupid, stupid idea.

Marriage is a serious commitment. Vows for better or for worse. And if you get married at 16 just to move out, it's almost a guarantee that you'll be starting at for worst.

How will you finish school? Do you have a job? How will you support yourself and your husband? Or even just you if you were to move out without getting married? How will you pay rent? Put food on the table? Do you even know how much rent usually is in your area? In mine it runs anywhere from about 500 to share a room to 1,200+ for a studio apratment. Do you have money like that? Don't forget you'll also probably have to pay for utilities-things like gas, water, electricity, if you want internet or cable that's even more. And if you get married, you and your husband would have to get your own health insurance. You wouldn't be able to be on your parents's plans. And these are just a few of the things you have to consider before moving out. The list could go on.

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 01:53 PM
I'm 16 I'm a guy:) and my girlfriend is pregnant I want to move out because I can't get a job stuck at my house and I know were I can get a job no questions asked.. and I have a place to stay for a couple months until I have enough to get my own place...

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 02:23 PM
High school diploma? What does "own place" mean? What about the girl's parents?

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 02:24 PM
If I get married can I move out??

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 02:28 PM
It would be insanity to move out.

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 02:29 PM
But I'm asking you if I get married would I be able to move out??

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 02:36 PM
You haven't told us what state you live in as to what are the laws.

Getting married at 16 is also insanity.

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 02:42 PM
I live in California and I want to get married because I love my girlfriend and we have been together for along time and she is pregnant and my mom is moving far so I want her to sign the paper saying that I could marry her I already praposed etc.

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 03:07 PM
What do the girl's parents say about this?

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 03:15 PM
They like me and there going to let me stay there... but can I move out if I have permission from my mom to get married

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 03:31 PM
What do I put on the paper I'm not asking what you think about me I'm asking what do I put on the paper I love my girlfriend and she loves me and she is pregnant and I want to move out so I can get a job and I live in California and I asked her if she wants to marry me and she said yea I know I have to get permission from my mom what exactly do I put on the paper?

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 03:40 PM
Marriage Age Requirements laws - Information on the law about Marriage Age Requirements - Female, Male, Consent, Parental, Minors, and Court (http://law.jrank.org/pages/11840/Marriage-Age-Requirements.html)

From marriage.about.com --

California: If either of you is under eighteen (18) years of age, you will need to make an appointment with a counselor, appear before a superior court judge, show certified copies of your birth certificates, and have one parent appear with you when you apply for the marriage license.

DoulaLC
Dec 11, 2010, 03:44 PM
It can depend on where you live. I know you have said you have the opportunity for a good paying job if you move, but have you actually worked out how much you are going to need to be earning? How good is good enough depends on what the needs (and wants) are. If you haven't already, might be a good idea to make a list of all the things you would need to paying on. Keep in mind, depending on where you live now, California is likely to be much more expensive.

Here is a site that will get you started on what is required to get parental consent:

Marriage Laws in the US by Age -- U.S. Teen Marriage License Laws (http://marriage.about.com/cs/teenmarriage/a/teenus.htm)

If you have other questions, be sure and ask.

Edit: misread your post, thought you were moving to California, but see you live in California. Wondergirl has provided you with information specifically for California... regardless, make that list of income versus expenses and see what you are looking at.

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 03:46 PM
It's not that easy.

From marriage.about.com --

California: If either of you is under eighteen (18) years of age, you will need to make an appointment with a counselor, appear before a superior court judge, show certified copies of your birth certificates, and have one parent appear with you when you apply for the marriage license.

plzanswr
Dec 11, 2010, 03:51 PM
Okay but if my girlfriend is pregnant do I still need parental approval to marry I'm in California?

Wondergirl
Dec 11, 2010, 04:00 PM
Did you read the first link I had posted on your other thread? Yes, you do.

California Marriage Age Requirements Laws

Code Section Family §300-303
Minimum Legal Age With Parental Consent Male: No age limit; Female: No age limit
Minimum Legal Age Without Parental Consent Male: 18; Female: 18
Comments: Minors under 18 need parental consent and a court order obtained on the showing the court requires

DoulaLC
Dec 11, 2010, 04:05 PM
Yes... it doesn't matter if she is pregnant or not, you would still need parental consent. This is for your protection as well.

A girl could tell her boyfriend that she is pregnant, and that he is the father, but unless there is dna testing done after baby is born, there is no way to know for sure if he is actually the father or not.

ScottGem
Dec 11, 2010, 05:08 PM
Don't you bother reading the responses you are getting? You were told NOT to use the Comments feature for followups, to use the Answer options.

You were given links to websites that spelled out the requirements for underage marriage in your state and were given quotes from those websites. Yet you keep asking the same question. Read what we have told you!

Fr_Chuck
Dec 11, 2010, 05:15 PM
But he is 16 and does not like being told he can't have his way, so he figures someone will tell him it is OK, if he asks enough, and then blame them when he moves out and gets into trouble.