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dunks123
Dec 3, 2010, 02:06 AM
Hey,
I'm normally pretty good with girls.. I have a girlfriend that I've been dating for a little over a year now. But the thing is I've been friends with this other girl for about 5 years, just friends, nothing more. I've liked her for a while before I started dating my current girlfriend but now I'm not sure if the friend that I've know for 5 years likes me now.. we used to hang out and talk everyday and over the summer she asked me to go on a vacation with her for a week. By the way she had a boyfriend at the time when she asked me to go on vacation with her. She said she wasn't able to bring her boyfriend with her because her parents said it wasn't right to have the boyfriend go with them. Recently we haven't been talking much because my girlfriend doesn't really like her at all and the friend that I've know for 5 years is upset that we barely talk and hangout. I'm just trying to figure out if she actually does, or did like me.
Thank you
Andrew916
Dec 3, 2010, 02:15 AM
Sounds like a friend who just misses hanging out and is a little upset that your girlfriend doesn't want you hanging out with her.
-Drew
Aleeravilu
Dec 3, 2010, 04:46 AM
It's a normal reaction from girl when someone she's been hanging out with for 5 years now suddenly has a girlfriend and stops spending time with her. This is a bit embarrassing to say but I'm exactly the same with the girl you've known for 5 years. My best friend who I've known for 3 years, who is a boy, started dating his girlfriend last January. At first I was upset because he spent way too much time with his girlfriend and I thought nothing was supposed to get between our friendship, let along a girl who had just known him for like 3 months. So I, too, asked him to hang out more, talk more, and even go somewhere together. But it doesn't mean that I like him, I just want him not to forget me now that he has a girlfriend. His girlfriend's reaction was exactly like yours. She said she didn't like me and wanted him to stop hanging out with me (dude that was so very frustrated! ). He was confused, but he got me and her to sit down and talk together to ease the tension between us. Now all of us are good friends.
It's like girls' nature to keep the boys with them, regardless they're their boyfriends or best friends, even just friends.
Hope you find my answer useful. Best of luck
Aleera~~
redhed35
Dec 3, 2010, 04:54 AM
I wonder what excatly is your intention towards this other girl?
Do you have feelings for her?
Does she have feelings for you?
I read your post to mean to want to be with this other girl,not that you want to continue the friendship.
I think you have to be honest with yourself here,its not fair to your girfriend if your having feeling s for someone else.
Aleeravilu
Dec 3, 2010, 08:24 AM
Agree.
I wish
Dec 3, 2010, 10:40 AM
Are you telling us that if your friend of 5 years has feelings for you, then you would dump your current girlfriend for her?
If you're ready to dump your current girlfriend so easily, then you've got bigger issues on your hands than wondering about your friend's feelings.
I suggest you figure out whether you really want to be with your current girlfriend before worrying about another girl.
As for your friend's feelings, who knows how she feels, but if you really want to find out, you better be single when doing it. Otherwise, that's not fair to your current girlfriend at all.
stinaann
Dec 3, 2010, 11:01 AM
In my personal opinion;
Maybe she did at one point, maybe she does, maybe now she doesn't at all. That's between you and her, but regardless, you shouldn't have let your girlfriend get in the way of a friendship. It doesn't matter if this girl is the one you're thinking about marrying, friendship is just as important as relationship. Any girlfriend/boyfriend, that gets into the way of a friendship is wrong, as long as *you're only friends*. So you made the choice to hang out with this girl less, because your girlfriend didn't/doesn't like her, causing your long term friend to become upset with you and possibly a little angry. Even if she does like you, you need to think less about your relationship and more about your friendship.