wizzlet
Nov 30, 2010, 05:49 AM
I met a guy I was into through a mutual (gay) friend. They are pretty tight. The guy and I were instantaneously attracted, trip-and-fall-over when we saw each other type of thing. The second time we hung out was at a birthday party and we were both drinking a lot... and spent a messy, sexy night together... at his house... which happened to be across the street from mine. Neither of us were or are looking for anything serious so we kind of laughed about it and agreed it was a great time (even though I knew it was too soon).
In the weeks following I would see him almost every night I made plans with our mutual friend because he would show up, seemingly wherever he could find me. I tried to make plans with him directly he got concerned about 'slowing down', etc. We were not having sex at all at this time, but he was glued to my side when we were out... holding my bag, not letting me pay, etc.
About three weeks into it, it normalized we were making plans directly with each other every night of the week, out having fun until 5AM, and getting intimate only twice (the tension was at fever pitch). A week later, we slowed it down a bit due to busy schedules.
I rang him one night, no answer. I texted a few hours later, nothing. I was out with other friends and ended up walking into one of our 'usual' places to find him there at a table of a bunch of people we both know. I ran for cover. I get a text from our mutual friend saying "i'm sorry this is awkward, he's on a date with some girl". Then the table proceeded to get up and leave (most didn't see me) and the guy walked out without saying a word to me. I was furious and really hurt!
I let him know he upset me and have been pretty cold to him about it. We exchanged a few e-mails and have seen each other twice in the past month since. He gazed at me with his big beautiful eyes and I melted, but returned it with a half smile and icy glance.
He damaged our sweet little friendship with a type of dishonesty I loathe. I suspect he is still seeing the date girl. He sort of apologized to me with words, but certainly not with action. I can't stand it!
Do I leave him on the side of the road? I wouldn't even know how to approach him now. He seems a different person to me.
In the weeks following I would see him almost every night I made plans with our mutual friend because he would show up, seemingly wherever he could find me. I tried to make plans with him directly he got concerned about 'slowing down', etc. We were not having sex at all at this time, but he was glued to my side when we were out... holding my bag, not letting me pay, etc.
About three weeks into it, it normalized we were making plans directly with each other every night of the week, out having fun until 5AM, and getting intimate only twice (the tension was at fever pitch). A week later, we slowed it down a bit due to busy schedules.
I rang him one night, no answer. I texted a few hours later, nothing. I was out with other friends and ended up walking into one of our 'usual' places to find him there at a table of a bunch of people we both know. I ran for cover. I get a text from our mutual friend saying "i'm sorry this is awkward, he's on a date with some girl". Then the table proceeded to get up and leave (most didn't see me) and the guy walked out without saying a word to me. I was furious and really hurt!
I let him know he upset me and have been pretty cold to him about it. We exchanged a few e-mails and have seen each other twice in the past month since. He gazed at me with his big beautiful eyes and I melted, but returned it with a half smile and icy glance.
He damaged our sweet little friendship with a type of dishonesty I loathe. I suspect he is still seeing the date girl. He sort of apologized to me with words, but certainly not with action. I can't stand it!
Do I leave him on the side of the road? I wouldn't even know how to approach him now. He seems a different person to me.