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mel-son44
Jan 7, 2007, 04:52 PM
I have a 16 year old girl who is prenant by a 14 year old boy.
Can she or he get introuble in the state of MO by law. I'am I doing right by
Not letting she see him or talk to him... What should I do... They
Say they love each other all the time... love Debbie :confused

Bsugar6969
Jan 7, 2007, 05:16 PM
If your daughter want to see him she will find a way... so! Love is blind and don't have a number on it!

There is a child in the middle of this... You can monitor the visit when they are at your house.

You cannot erase the problem but you need to come up with a solution!

Think about it!! You don't want your daughter to hate you!! Blood is thicker than water!
However, you might get thirsty! What do you get!! Water!!

:confused:

bkdaniels
Jan 7, 2007, 06:34 PM
As upset as you may be, it is important for you not to let your anger prevent you from thinking clearly about this situation. Wanting the 14 year old or your 16 year old to be punished by imprisonmen is not the answer.

Because you still have the ultimate control over your household, if you don't want them to see or talk to each other in your home, that is your decision. However, maybe -just maybe- they really do love each other and they are going to have to live with each other and the kid somehow.

Nevertheless, you should start by talking with the 14 year olds parents. Because he is a minor, there is a chance they may offer help through the pregnancy.

Most information that is available online is not entirely clear about the age of statutary rape and the ones that are, are out dated. For example, One source says the victim has to be under 14 years and the accused has to be an adult. The other one states, First-degree statutory rape if actor is 17 and has intercourse with person <14; second degree if actor is >=21 and victim is <17.

Therefore, I would suggest you contact your District's Prosecuting Attorney. Initially, burdens of proof relies a great deal on trust – in victims and in prosecutors – that the omitted element will truly be present when cases come to trial.

However, in this case, it appears your daughter may be at fault and proceeding further may generate a criminal action. These charges can be brought about by his parents or the state.

You must also contact a Defense Attorney. If the laws places your daughter over the age limit of having sex with someone 14 or under, the 14 year olds parents may decide to prosecute her.

A Defence Attorney can advice you better about how you should proceed with this matter. From the way that I look at things, there is not much the law can do, this time, for either party.

Hope this answers your question!

ADDITIONAL RESOURCE(S)

The Catholic Diocese of Allentown
The Diocese of Allentown: Pregnancy Support (http://www.allentowndiocese.org/csa/pregnancy.htm)

REFERENCE(S)

1. Sherry F. Colb, 2004. CNN.com - The pros and cons of statutory rape laws - Feb. 13, 2004 (http://www.cnn.com/2004/LAW/02/13/findlaw.analysis.colb.statutory.rape/index.html)

2. Guttmacher Institute, 2007. Can Statutory Rape Laws Be Effective in Preventing Adolescent Pregnancy? (http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/journals/2903097.html)

Gifted1
Feb 12, 2007, 10:07 PM
Well the fact is that when the baby is born the father will have every right to see the baby so there for will see the mother so unfortunately you will have to allow that to happen. I think that what is done is done now and the pieces will have to be picked up as best they can. Your job is to love her and her baby and make sure that the little one feels love as well as security. As you know the bond between a mother and child is very strong. Your daughter is about to feel that and will probably want you in her life more than ever.

God is love.

tamed
Feb 13, 2007, 03:26 AM
I agree with the others, I mean come on, what's the worst they could do now? She's already pregnant.