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nomzy
Jan 7, 2007, 10:07 AM
Hi...


I tried to help myself but it didn't work out...

I can't speakout what I feel... not that I am a dumb but just that can't go against

Sum ones wish or decision... I feel that I may hurt their feeling by saying my point of view

My mom is worried because of this since a long tym...

Even my school teachers observed this thibg in me...

I think I get too much influenced by others thought... n can't stick to my decision

Now I am 19 n doing medicine... coz of this I find myself sumtyms frustated and out of mind I think


Don't know what to do now to change this... I know what I am doing is right but in an instance find myself in a confusion after hereing to others view on my thought or plan...


I don't c nyway out of this...

Help me if you think I can change by sumway


Thanks

bloofreak
Jan 7, 2007, 11:47 AM
I understand your problem because I suffer from that pron quiet often... I think one was could be prayer... well I'm a religious person... n if your nt then I think that you can start by chattin with plp because its so much easier to say what you want to say... honestly it is and then after that you can start setting small goals for being bold enuf... n believe me I was in that posititon before... especially when it came to shoppin and choise because ma mom was kind of the crititzin kind... n so I was shy... really very shy and I would always avoid saying what I liked...

But you no u must remember one thin and really write it on your heart... n that is that everyone has different and unique choises and way of thinking and you no different perpespectives of lyf... some plp have alike and some don't... n whteva that is all are different ways of thinking... n sometimes plp criticize or let other plp dwn each other bcoz they think that their way of thinking is better and good...


Don't worry u'll get ova this prob if God willing...
I hope this works...
Tc...
Hff...

Bluerose
Jan 7, 2007, 04:00 PM
nomzy,

Being shy and finding it hard to open up to other people can be very frustrating. Try keeping a journal in which you can write all your thoughts and feelings. This would also help you to organise your thoughts and help you to focus on the things you really want.

As for other people influencing you a lot.. keep in mind that everyone has a path to follow, you do too. And you are not a bad person if you leave someone to get on with something on their own.

Journaling will help you to organise your thoughts, decide what you want out of life, and help you to create some rules for yourself that will keep you from being so easily influenced by others.

nomzy
Jan 8, 2007, 02:17 AM
Thanks for your advices...


Well I am a religios person too... n now a dayz I am doing as you say chatin wit pepul

It is steadyly improving me... but I am good at interactin wit pepul so don't know... luk I am still confused...

Nywayz I am trying out your advice as you say...
Thanks

Blue rose,

Mam thanks for your suggestion but I am not in a habbit of writing like that

But I am feeling that I should try it out once and c


Thanks for your advice

bloofreak
Jan 8, 2007, 09:27 AM
Hiya! Gd to no u believe in God and about all da improvements... I will pray for you as well n in no time u'll b fine! :)
Soz take care...