OK so I have been with my husband for 8 months and only new him for 2 before that. He is 23 and I'm 20. We couldn't keep our hands off each other for the first 4 months of being together and after that it all went sour. He has no sex drive anymore and when he does get an erection its not as hard as it should be he went to the doctor and everything is normal. The other night he admitted that he hasn't really felt horny in a long time... he is the only one I have ever been with... when he told me he doesn't get horny all I could think about was what is wrong with me... I love him but I can't do this forever. I'm so young and I don't want to be this miserable the rest of my life. And when we do have sex it feels like pity sex and he doesn't do anything special or even try foreplay before. I have talked to him about this until I am blue in the face... I don't know what to do...

Not that I am an expert on the subject or anything, but I have been that guy once or twice in my marriage and all I can say is if he is not getting horny ussually there is something else going on its nothing to do with you, I am sure he finds you just as attractive as the day you two met if not more so. I would try talking to him about it when your not in a sexual setting. Another thing to try would be to change it up buy some sexy cloths or a few toys or try something you have never tried before. Try and come up with something you know he has always wanted to do sexually and attempt to make it happen. In my experience 1 good night is ussually enough to get me out of a rut.