Hi, I'm going to try and make this short and simple.

My boyfriend and I are on something of a 'break' at the moment, call it an open relationship, whatever you want.
But every time I try and talk to a new guy he keeps getting upset and ignores me for a few days. I don't understand what he wants because HE initiated the break, so why not let me date freely?

Thanks

Ok here I go.

Numero Uno- Breaks are jokes!

Numero Dos- It sounds as if he still cares. He wants you but at the same time doesn't but doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

Numero Tres- Confront him and tell him it's a relationship with him or nothing at all.
Don't waste away waiting for this guy, it's not worth it. Do what makes you happy and live life.
If he makes you happy then try to patch things up and if he doesn't go for it then I guess you know where you two stand.

Licing your life in pause mode waiting for this guy isn't the key to happiness.
Live your life and be happy!

Because what he wants is for him to be able to do the things freely, while still having you all to himself. Have a cup of tea of self respect and tell him that if he is not commuted then neither will you. Don't be played around by this guy!

Good Luck,

Javi

Totally think breaks are something I never understand. If you think you want to be with him - get back with him! From my personal point of view if you can be without this person then your not right for each other and it should completely be over. I think he's playing you, not letting you get with others but I'm sure he's fine with him doing it! Id talk it out and stay or get out of there - best of luck x

You won't know until you ask him. Unfortunately, if he wants to play mind games with you, then it doesn't sound like he wants to repair the relationship.

Sounds to me that you're better off going your separate ways.

Well I had a long argument with him last night, and he said he wanted me back, but it has only been 3 weeks since the break, and I don't think he is sincere. I just think he's after sex and using me as a back up in case things don't work out for him and any other woman, and I will not tolerate that. I told him everything I am basically telling you guys, and all he said was: You lost the best guy you ever had, you did this to yourself, and I'll still always love you.
I told him not to talk to me again, but all he responded with was : K
'K' doesn't really mean 'yes' or 'sure' or even 'no' he left his answer very neutral, and I'm wondering if he's going to start talking to me again soon, because he didn't take me off his MSN or Facebook, and this sort of thing has happened before, where we'd have a fight, and he'd go away for a bit, and then talk to me again.
What do you guys think?

I definitely think he has to go, to say 'You lost the best guy you ever had' just sums him up in one to me and that is not the type of person you should be involved with! I agree with you that 'K' can be mutual, but I would also take it as he doesn't really care and at that point just thought about number one - himself!
You thinking you're a back-up to me is completely true, he is worried that you are going to find someone else and he'll be left on his own. Make sure you don't get wrapped around his little finger and get drawn back in to get hurt all over again! Separate ways sounds like a good idea!

Oh absolutely, I told him not to talk to me ever again, anhd I haven't gotten around to deleting him from Facebook, but I blocked him on MSN. I was only wondering because I want to be prepared for if he might start talking to me again. Because I have a feeling that what I told him about not talking to me ever again just went in one ear and right out the other. I am 90% sure he'll start something again, because he did it while we were on our break.
The whole point of our break WAS to let each other simmer down and not talk to each other, but HE kept initiating the conversations, and I KNEW it was because he didn't want me seeing anyone else.
But when I confronted him about it, he kept saying that I was spewing sh*t, and that he really does care and that he does love me, and all he needed was more time to think.

Sounds like you have everything under control. Glad to keep. Keep up the NC. Check out the NC related threads in my signature if you ever feel the need to break NC.

Furthermore, sounds to me that you've already decided to move on: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/personal-growth/am-ever-going-meet-right-person-525411.html