Log in

View Full Version : I found out at 26 that my dad was not my biolgical father. Anyone else?


looking4others
Nov 15, 2010, 04:02 PM
Anyone else dealing with social issues surrounding non-paternity? I found out at 26 that my dad was not my biolgical father. Anyone else?

tickle
Nov 15, 2010, 04:43 PM
Deal with it and move on does it make you any less than the person you are? What do you mean when you say 'social issues from non-paternity'.
Does that make your dad any less ? Tell me what he hasn't given you. Or am I missing your point here.

No, I am not a person who didn't have a non biological father, but I know a lot of people in your shoes.

Tick

Stratmando
Nov 15, 2010, 04:47 PM
Many people, and many Never find out, It's not easy raising kids, for what ever reason your Father wasn't there, Your Dad was, I don't think it was his place to tell you, more likely your moms, Probably never knew how to tell you, and may not have helped with you knowing, anything change?

looking4others
Nov 15, 2010, 05:05 PM
A lot changed. It helped understand some differences I instinctively felt growing up. I lucked out having two great guys as dads and I know it was tough for my mom to deal with. Wish more had been done in terms of offering support I guess?

tickle
Nov 15, 2010, 05:48 PM
I applaud your comments and get the impression that you have a mature outlook on the situation. Yes, it must have been difficult for your mom but she obviously brought you through it. You appreciate your mom, I can see that. All the best.

Ms tickle

MaryIL
Dec 28, 2010, 03:06 AM
I heard they once tested people randomly, and found a really high percentage of kids have different parentage than the dad, and no one but the mother is aware of it.

cdad
Dec 28, 2010, 02:15 PM
I heard they once tested people randomly, and found a really high percentage of kids have different parentage than the dad, and no one but the mother is aware of it.

When you make a blanket statement like this can you show any reference to back it up?

MaryIL
Dec 28, 2010, 11:34 PM
I said I just heard it, that implies I hadn't researched it. Feel free to Google, this is what I pulled up.
http://menshealth.about.com/od/lifestyle/a/paternity.htm
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2005/aug/11/childrensservices.uknews

http://

J_9
Dec 28, 2010, 11:40 PM
I heard they once tested people randomly,

This is ridiculous. DNA testing is expensive. They wouldn't just do it on a whim.

Do you believe EVERYTHING you read on the internet?

cdad
Dec 29, 2010, 01:51 PM
I heard they once tested people randomly, and found a really high percentage of kids have different parentage than the dad, and no one but the mother is aware of it.

Both of the sites you posted claim only 4% or 1 in 25. That's not very high at all. Another thing from a legal standpoint. The father of the child is presumed to be the husband in a marriage regardless of biology. So I don't find any of it surprising. Nor would I say it's a high percentage.

When making blanket statements on this site we strive for accuracy. That's why I had asked for you to prove up. So people later reading this thread aren't deceived.