Hi

I met this Guy in August 2010 on a night out. He took me out the following week and we really hit it off. He took me away for my birthday an we had a great time. He always satyed wth me at my mums house every night.
He told me his ex had begged for him back and if he hadn't had met me he would have gone back with her, so I questioned this and said it worried me as I didn't wnt to get hurt and if he was wanting to get back with her then to do it now sooner than later. He then replied saying he didn't mean it, and he wanted everything with me and he loved me so much. He met all my family even my 85 year old grandad who isn't well.
Things started going downhill when e didn't text me as much and when he needed to be home early at 5am to sort his dog out as his mum wasn't well :/ I finnished it with him as I started to not trust him, but he wormed his way back in saying he loved me and wanted to give me everything and that things would change. So like a fool I let him back in.
He then said he had to go to work in germany for work at the weekend. He told me this on a Tuesday which I thought was short notice for work to just make him go. But I tried not to get paronoid and didn't question this. Unitl he stopped answering my calls when he was there, then texting me saying it was really hot and he was working with his shirt off :? It was September it's not going to be hot in germany right??
I asked him what time his flght back home were, and he said 12:15 I checked this and there wasnint even a flight at that time. So I told him to either show me his flight pass of leave me alone, his answer was I don't have to justifie myself to you. Which made me feel bad and silly so I left it. He then come round to mine the day he came home and looked quite brown and bought me a anklet bracelet which you would buy from tourist attractions.

I left it at that and we seemed to be getting on, but I told him I wanted to meet his family as we had been going out 5 month and he had met mine. He then said I'm sorry but I need to speak with my mum as my ex is still really good friends with her. I went mad and said your mum should accept your with someone else and be happy for you. And kicked him out.
I ignored his texts and the day after he came to mine, and sex with me and then dropped me ff at work making me believe that I was meeting his parents the same night, only to get a text at the last min saying he wasn't in love with me like he was before. I was heartbroken and felt used.
I deleted his number and the day after he got back in ouch with me saying it was a mistake and he loves me and like a idiot omg I hate myself haha let him come and see me.

The following weekend he was going to his auntys 50th ALONE :/ and never asked me so I brought it up, and he said the reason he didn't ask me was because I was already going out, which I was so I just left it.

After the night out we text each other and he was supposed to be coming to see me, then all of a sudden his mum had a heart attack and was rushed to hospital, I elt so sorry for him as I lost my dad when I was 18years old so I didn't text and gave him time.

Anyway I checked fb and looked at his cousins auntys 50th birthday slyley and saw pictures of him and his ex at the party all loved up I was so so angry, and his mum also dancing in the photo's which proves she didt have a heart attack the evil boy...

I checked his ex pf and she has lots of pictures of him and her.

So I text him basically quite nasty saying I hate him and I don't want anything to do with you ever again.
And all he text back is. " im not with her, i want you, i love you" what is he playing at I don't understand how his sick little mind works, its my life. Is he just playing mind games with me? Does he love me? As if he didn't why would he spend 5 months with me? I've deleted him on fb. I also had two misscarridges to this bellend and he knew about it. How bad is that. I feel so hurt and would love to get revenge back, although I don't knowif that is a good idea?

So sorryfor all this I just need some advise lol.

Thanks Guys xx

I didn't read the WHOLE thing, but I think the best thing to do is just go silent. Don't text, e-mail, phone, any form of commnication. If he does love you, he will try to talk to you. If he gets back from his trip, and he doesn't try to find you any more, just forget about him. Delete or erase every memory of him. If he does try to find you, after you've giving him the silent treatment, id give him a good talking to, but in a nice tone, if you get aggressive, he'l go into lockdown mode and youl get nothing past him.

But in the time it takes for him to get back, try to forget about him. Try to think about all the different kinds of sandwitches. Seriously. Who can be mad at a sandwitch, because its really just a sandwitch. Or you could try to imagine that he dies suddenly, and what your first reaction would be.



Also, I think you just need some time to cool down, because if your saying he has a "sick little mind", I think you need to break something. You also said its your life, and your right, it is so you can do anything you want in this case. But don't just act out of anger, because you might regret it later.

Best wishes

I think you already know in your heart that he's a lying cheat.

Don't allow him to keep treating you as a second rate person. You deserve love and respect and you're never going to get it from him.

You need to go no contact. If you have to, just block him off FB, change your phone number, and move on. If you don't, you're only going to live a life of heartache.