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vertro19
Nov 2, 2010, 05:00 PM
All I do is ***** and complain about everything my boyfriend does, he broke up with me over the summer two times the first time was because he "didnt know what love was" and the second time was because of something I did during the first time. We are now back together but I feel like things are weird I can't get over that he left me and it still bothers him what I did.. WHAT SHOULD I DO!

Cat1864
Nov 3, 2010, 08:56 AM
May I ask how old both of you are and if you are still in school?

How long were you a couple before the first break-up? How long were you broken up and did you work through the issues that caused the break up before getting back together? Am I reading correctly that he broke up with a second time because of something you did while you were not a couple? Did you at very least start to work through the issues that caused the second break up before you got back together?

You need to sit down and have a calm discussion about the relationship and your issues. Both of you need to be open and honest with each other and work together to rebuild the trust that was damaged by the first break-up and events after. He needs to understand that what happened while you were not a couple is NOT his business. He gave up any privilege to have any say in your actions, etc. when he broke up with you.

If neither of you can let go the past and move forward, then perhaps you need to decide if you should break up one last time for good. If you are going to continue to hurt each other, then you shouldn't be together.

VRon1
Nov 5, 2010, 06:15 PM
I hate to say it but it sounds like you two are done. It also sounds like you are not happy and if you are not happy he is not happy. Just sit down with him and explain things. It probably wasn't a good idea to get back together after the second time. You guys keep bringing up old dirt so just put the shovel down and leave. Go plant some seeds some where else (I mean that non sexually) see other people and try just being friends or cut ties all together.

Nathan19
Nov 22, 2010, 04:46 AM
Maybe if you start fresh go back to when you first meet each other think of the stuff you done things that made you to who you are now , Like this that made you smile things that made him smile (Like walks movies pool drinks)


Or if the magic is still not there I would kindly suggest to move on.. I would not want anyone to be in a relationship that they are not happy in

This might help you
Best of luck
Nathan