She is going for her friends B-day, it's a girls weekend with about 6 others. We have been dating for roughly a year and this is the first time I've ever felt this wave of paranoia fly over me. Obviously it would be wrong for me to tell her she can't go, and I want her to have fun with her friends, yet I can't help but think something bad may happen and ruin our relationship. Maybe it's the stigma of "What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas" that has me doubt my relationship, but I also suppose if someone is going to get drunk and cheat, if its not in Vegas, it would be sometime / somewhere else eventually.

My gal likes to party, but she also comes from a very loving and conservative family. She has had her moments, as I have had mine (boy have I had mine), but she has never cheated in the past (on me or in other relationships) and I don't believe she would now. Maybe it's the fact she is extremely attractive and very outgoing and constantly attracts other guys. However, she feels the same with me and gets insecure quite often even when I'm out with her. Its something we both need to work on.

My girlfriend constantly tells me how much she loves me and how much she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, and I believe her as I wish to spend mine with her. I just can't help but think how devastated I would be if something happened. I know eventually this is something I'm going to have to get use too (we are at that age where our friends are getting married etc and Bachelor / Bachelortte parties are well on their way) but I am struggling with it at the moment. Any words of advice?

Thanks all.

All you can do now is trust her that she won't cheat and you can talk about this issue with her first in a calm matter and concern so that she won't get angry you would ever think that. If she truly loves you, she wouldn't get with anyone else no matter how much she has to drink or want to have fun.

If afterward you do find out that she has cheated on you (not to say she will) then you will have more options. There will be signs of whether she cheated or not when she comes back, ex. Whether she starts acting strange, not usual, etc.

You are going to have to trust her period. You have been with this woman for almost a year, if you can't trust her by now, then you never really will. You sitting and speculating on what if she cheats,what am I going to do isn't doing your relationship any good.

If she does, then you will deal with it. But the bottom line is, she hasn't. So stop assuming that she doesn't have any moral character. I sure wouldn't let her know that you have no trust in her, she might just take real offense to that and handle your insecurities before she leaves for Las Vegas.

I went to college in Los Angeles and spent many weekends in Las Vegas, often with girlfriends. It was fun - great restaurants, always a fun show to see, and days by the pool working on our tans and enjoying girl talk. Las Vegas is a fun place to go with friends, and has a lot more to offer than most weekend getaways. I was almost always in a relationship, and never once was tempted to cheat. If it's not in her nature to cheat, which it sounds like it isn't, don't worry about her. It sounds like you have a good relationship. Trust her.

Why let your fears drive you crazy on something that probably isn't going to happen?? Wish her well and make a plan for yourself to stay busy, and have your own fun, because if you trust her, why worry about it? This is a test of how you deal with your own fear. Don't let it beat you.