arett
Nov 2, 2010, 09:41 AM
Just over a year ago my wife (soon to be ex-wife) came to me out of nowhere and told me she wanted out and wants a divorce. This was just after we had been on a weeks vacation and to our friends cabin 2 weeks after that. No one not even her closet friends or family had any idea as well as myself.
We have been together for 17 years and married for 9 with 2 wonderful kids (7 and 4) and have never had any issues at all. She was what I thought the strongest most caring person in the world so was devastated when she told me this. I recommend counseling a vacation just the 2 of us to try and work things out as I thought myself or at least the kids deserved a chance for us to work things out. However she wanted nothing to do with it. I asked her the reasoning for this, no real answer, I asked if she was cheating she said no.
She stayed in the house for 2 months and Moved out Dec. Within a week she was seeing someone as she moved out. This person she is seeing was married and told his wife the same time to move out of his house as he was moving someone in. This man also has done this to his wife 2 times before where he has moved her out and someone in then that person moves out and he begs for her to come back. He has also cheated on her many times 3 weeks after they were married and 3 weeks after they had there youngest.
Both my wife and him filed for divorce within a week of each other and he had her and my kids moved in with him within 5 months. I have never met this guy but from what I hear he is the most arrogant man in the town. Everyone I have talked to either does not know him or thinks he is the biggest ***. My wife's friends will not do anything with him or her together because of him and it seems like he is trying to keep her from them and introduce her to his friends which are very limited. He is not allowed to contact his wife but still manages to try to cause her life hell. Last week he called me and told me that if I ever try and contact my wife that he will press charges against me.
My wife thinks he is the absolute greatest and so doting to her something she never liked before. He has talked her into doing things she never would have done with me because she was dead set against it. She has also changed a lot from being around him. Her friends used to be dear to her but know it really does not seem to matter because its all him.
I'm just wondering if he may possibly be classified as a sociopath. And if so is there anything I could do to help my wife realize this. I love her to death and am afraid this man is going to destroy her and when it comes crashing down she may have lost everything and everyone even her family.
Thank you
Heartbroken and Scared
We have been together for 17 years and married for 9 with 2 wonderful kids (7 and 4) and have never had any issues at all. She was what I thought the strongest most caring person in the world so was devastated when she told me this. I recommend counseling a vacation just the 2 of us to try and work things out as I thought myself or at least the kids deserved a chance for us to work things out. However she wanted nothing to do with it. I asked her the reasoning for this, no real answer, I asked if she was cheating she said no.
She stayed in the house for 2 months and Moved out Dec. Within a week she was seeing someone as she moved out. This person she is seeing was married and told his wife the same time to move out of his house as he was moving someone in. This man also has done this to his wife 2 times before where he has moved her out and someone in then that person moves out and he begs for her to come back. He has also cheated on her many times 3 weeks after they were married and 3 weeks after they had there youngest.
Both my wife and him filed for divorce within a week of each other and he had her and my kids moved in with him within 5 months. I have never met this guy but from what I hear he is the most arrogant man in the town. Everyone I have talked to either does not know him or thinks he is the biggest ***. My wife's friends will not do anything with him or her together because of him and it seems like he is trying to keep her from them and introduce her to his friends which are very limited. He is not allowed to contact his wife but still manages to try to cause her life hell. Last week he called me and told me that if I ever try and contact my wife that he will press charges against me.
My wife thinks he is the absolute greatest and so doting to her something she never liked before. He has talked her into doing things she never would have done with me because she was dead set against it. She has also changed a lot from being around him. Her friends used to be dear to her but know it really does not seem to matter because its all him.
I'm just wondering if he may possibly be classified as a sociopath. And if so is there anything I could do to help my wife realize this. I love her to death and am afraid this man is going to destroy her and when it comes crashing down she may have lost everything and everyone even her family.
Thank you
Heartbroken and Scared