Me and my guy have been together for about one year now. We were friends for about three years. Then in the summer of 2008 he kised me. It was amazing for me and him. The entire summer we were together. Then I broke it off. I did not talk to him for about 3 months. I thought he wanted to be with someone else he onced loved. Then in January of 2010 we got back together we became intimate and been together ever since. But I'm not sure he wants to be with me. He has a lot of friends that are girls. The talk and text a lot. More than he talks and texts me. He works a lot and says he needs to take care of something before he can really be with me they way I want him too. Its like he never has time to be with me. He and I both have children well they are teen children. I was never married he was. I love him dearly and he says he loves me. But I feel empty. I feel like he only wants to keep me around to have sex, but he's clearly told me we can stop if that's the way I feel. Is he using me or does he really want to be with me. He says we are a couple and in a relationship but I am comfused. He is the second man I ever been with and this is very difficult. Please advise.

Would he and you stop having sex and just spend time getting to know each other? Or wouldn't he give you any time then?

Yes, he would stop. In the beginning he wanted to stop but I did not. He has told me a few time we should stop and I said no.

Okay. Try the conversation-only thing for a month or two or three. Be sure to let us know how it's going.

You are not his biggest priority, why is he yours?

Yes, he would stop. In the beginning he wanted to stop but I did not. He has told me a few time we should stop and I said no.

Next time say YES!! Then you would feel better and so would he.