We met through a common friend in March 2001. She captured my heart the moment our eyes met the very first time. We would cross paths every so often and the sparks would fly for both of us.We had our first date in June of 2004 and that was it,we were both in love.She had a young son from a previous marriage who I did my best to gradually get to know. We decided to move in together in Apr.2005. I couldn't have ever dreamed of a more beautiful ,fun,exciting and sexy woman to be with.
We bought our own home in Sept 2008 and everything seemed complete.

Over the summer I began to notice her being quiet and "not herself"... I would ask her if she was OK, or to "please talk to me...tell me what's wrong"... she ignored my attempts or just gave me short retorts that all was fine. All was not fine... she stopped any sexual exchanges of any kind with me... talked to me less and less... gave me constant rude attitude ,even when I would ask a simple question.
She met with her sister for dinner 3 weks ago and 2 days later out of the sheer blue announced that she doesn't love me anymore... wants to leave... doesn't care about our home... etc etc.
I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach... I tried for 4 hours to understand what was happening and tried my best to talk to her and feel out what was really going on.The entire afternoon went by with us both in tears at times talking about what she had decided. I told her that to make such a huge life changing decision without even talking to me was not reasonable or fair considering we co-own the house and I have raised her son for more than 6 years like he was my own.
She then broke down and told me she believes it's the only answer as she feels like she's losing her mind... and thinks she's mentally ill.she told me she has been talking to "invisible friends" and they love her the way she wants to be loved .

I have talked to local coucellors and medical people... I have begun doing all the household shopping/cleaning/cooking/childcare to relieve her of some pressure... I have gone to every length to show her all my love... my loyalty... my care... all day every day so she knows she can count on me to be there for her.She is generally a stonewall to me emotionally... she won't let me put my arms around her at night or sleep beside her like I've always done.
I am drained,lonely,empty,confused and wearing down quickly... not sure what to do or where ill be even a month from now at this rate.

Life sometime is too hard to understand. You just have to give her space and sometime alone so that she can sort her mind, and as for you, you will have to be strong and patient with her, I know is painful what your going through. I just wish you all the best.

she feels like she's losing her mind... and thinks she's mentally ill.she told me she has been talking to "invisible friends" and they love her the way she wants to be loved.
Is there some way to get her to a doctor? This sounds very serious, if she's telling the truth. Do you want her son to be living with someone like this if these voices start telling her to do harmful things to herself or her son?

She needs professional help, a doctor, and possibly counseling. If she's hearing voices than something isn't right, and she can't continue like this, nor can you.

Talk to her, get her to see a doctor, and than go from there.

I agree with Wondergirl and Altenweg! Exactly my thoughts as I read through your post... what if these people she talks too decide to tell her to harm her son? This is pretty serious, if she even thinks something is wrong she should hop to the doctors soon to get some help.

Auditory hallucinations* are seldom an isolated symptom. Usually there are other accompanying alterations of thought processes or loss of contact with reality that are detectable in speech or observed conduct.

Nevertheless, if she states that she is being directed by invisible entities, now isn't the time to over-analyze her statement. You should assume serious mental illness. The time span you cite indicates chronicity. It's probably not going away spontaneously.

While your actions in response to these circumstances are well intentioned, I'm sure, and grounded in love and concern they are at the same time more akin to indulgence than assistance. If she is suffering from a serious mental disorder you are not going to love her out of it. It requires psychiatric intervention. Each day that passes could lead to worsening of the condition.

I fully understand that this is easier said than done. Particularly if you are not married. However, you also state that she said "she feels like she's losing her mind...and thinks she's mentally ill." That opens the door for, and should ease, the necessary discussions.

I recommend that you focus your attention and efforts toward getting her a complete psychiatric evaluation. Both of you will benefit from that effort.


*"Talking to invisible friends" is an unusual phrase and may not be the equivalent of auditory hallucinations.

Thank you one and all for the advice,suggestions and concern. It's really something nice to see that there are still some people out there who actually care about other people.I appreciate it.
I have no reason to believe in any possible harm to her son,her or even myself. I have already considered any possibility and have discussed the matter with professionals . I have arranged appointments with counselors and with her doctor along with a brief description of what's taking place. I can only try to stay strong now and help with whatever I can. I love her deeply and will do whatever it takes to help her.I just need to pace myself to avoid the inevitable burn out this all could lead to.
Again,thanks to all for the time and words.

Please stay in touch and keep us up to date with how things are going. We really do care.

The point you said about talking to invisible people , made clear out every thing , she is facing big time brain depression , only doctores can help her out , and man I'm sorry for this , you better cheer yourself up , I know it's hard to spend some on in seven years , and suddenly turned like this , life is *****, help her out, and stay much longer with your family to cool and calm yourself down, you didn't do this by your hands.