Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 17 months. We are freshman and college and everything appeared to be going great. We always get along, we almost never fight. In high school, we had over 8 classes together for the entire year and we were perfect. Even through out the summer we remained extremely close. We talked about our future together and marriage, etc all the time. Just a few weeks ago, she sends me a love email saying how much I mean to her, and how I'm the best boyfriend ever. But yesterday, she says that she needs a break. She says that ever since college started, she's changed. I haven't noticed any changes at all. I know for a fact there is no one else in the mix affecting her decision. So she decided to end it. She says that I'm too clingy, which I only did because she said that I didn't show my feelings enough in public. I try to convince her to let me fix things, and she responds with "relationships shouldnt require fixing, they should just be." to me, that's bs, the constant tweaking is what makes them work. After all said and done, she still wants to be friends, and to talk daily. I want to know why she feels this way? And if it's worth trying? She says that I'm still in her heart and that eventually we stand a chance at being together again. What should I do?

Hello confused,

She doesn't know what she wants at this point in time. It's not her fault.

It's a good thing that she told you now instead of stringing you along a very emotional hard relationship.

Kuddos to her.

I think that she made it clear that she wants a break. Let her have one.

She may be realizing that she is young and in college and want s to find herself first before having a solid relationship.

The only thing to all of this that doesn't seem to make sense is to why you didn't ask her right away why she is ending it...

All in all though, she did, and I think that the ball is in her court.

If she wants you back then she will ask to have you back.

For now just be friends and focus on yourself and college.

If it is meant to be it will be.

Don't pressure her.

Give her space. You go your way too.
She wants to experience college life as a single girl, nothing wrong with that.
She has been honest about it, now respect it.
Have fun yourself.

You really do need to give her the space she wants... she's confused about what she wants and was at least honest with you.

I'm sure you are hurting because of the breakup. If you think you can be "friends" without anything else, then go for it. BUT if being "friends only" is painful for you, you need to tell her that you can't be "just friends" and proceed with no contact.

You should bow out gracefully and keep your dignity, and self respect, and leave her alone to do her thing, because that's what she wants, and that's why she dumped you. She has found many things of interest for herself and wants to enjoy it to the fullest.

I can only tell you I can't blame her and she was honest enough to tell you, so I suggest you take good memories from this and move on to do your own thing and enjoy your freedom.

If you try fighting to get her back, or question her decision, instead of respecting it, she will hate you.

Leave it on good terms, and enjoy yourself, because you have as many options and opportunities for fun, and romance as she does. Think about it. You hurt now, and maybe don't understand, but that's the nature of any break up and it sucks, but it usually opens the door for personal, emotional growth, and makes you ready for something much better. In time, you will see that, and understand.