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hellokittypie
Oct 23, 2010, 11:41 PM
There is this guy who my friend says like me. He stares at me every time I go into the shop he works in, and it is sort of constant staring. He always smiles at me and comes over to talk to me and seems happy when he is talking with me and happy to see me. He asked how old I was and told me about him and his life and asked about mine.

One time I went into the shop with a friend, to get a present for my friend. While we were in there, he kept looking at me all the time and I would look at him and we would both see the other one looking. When my friend went out to have a cigerette, and for me to get the present, as soon as my friend left, he came over and gave me a big smile and started talking to me, we talked for a long time about everything and he seemed to enjoy it, while we were talking we would look into each others eyes and he would smile at me, and look at me in a way I can't really describe (a good way), we would stand very close together to all the time.

I told him about a problem I had with my xbox 360 and he said to bring it in tomorrow and he will have a look at it. So I did, turn out the hard drive was broken so he gave me a new one for free, they cost about £50. He didn't have to give it to me for free as I brought it there probably 3 years ago.

However he has a girlfriend but has never really mentioned her. He once said that he came from his girlfriends house, that's how I know he has one, but that was in passing when he was saying something else. He also is going to spain with her in about a week and a half, but he only said with her when I asked him who is he going with. I'm sort of confused as he has a girlfriend but then he constantly stares at me and as my friend would say flirts really obvious with me.
I want to repay him for fixing my xbox and giving me the free hard drive as I feel bad as it is a lot of money and stuff.

So I went in there to ask him if he would let me buy him a drink to say thank you for helping me. I went in the shop with a friend and then he left to smoke a cigarette, and the man came over to me and started talking like we normally do. I made him laugh a lot and he seems really happy to be talking with me, he always looks me in the eyes and smiles when he sees me. I preordered a game and he was looking if there was any other ones, and preordered some for me without me even saying, and he preordered one for me because he was getting it too. It was late so the shop was going to close soon so he had to sort out the tills so before saying bye I asked if he would like to go out for a drink so I could say thank you for the other day. He said his girlfriend is extremely jealous and it is a very kind gesture, and that he would love to another time. He didn't say it in a fast, uninterested way. He said it with a smile and seemed genuine about it. But what do you think he meant, do you think he is interested in me? I'm confused, my friend seems to think that he really likes me and that it is obvious by the way he acts and tells me about his life and interests, by the way he stares at me and always talks to me and smiles and seems genuinely happy to see me and talk with me. We have a lot in common too. What do you think he meant by 'i would love to another time'?
Since I can remember him working in that shop, he has always stared at me. He even did when he worked in it before the store moved which was about 2 years ago. But since it had moved it has been more intense, I think that is the right word. Before he wouldn't really come over and talk but when the store moved he always asked me if I wanted help and now he just comes over to me and talks about normal stuff, doesn't even ask if I need help, just comes and talks.

I hadn't been in there for quite a few weeks and I went in there the other day to have a look and he came straight over to me as soon as I walked in and started talking to me as normal. He said that he hasn't seen me in ages. When he came over to me I was looking at some games and he put he hand in front of my face. He was talking about what he was been doing and that he has been doing interviews for the new jobs there. I said that I was looking for a job as I'm taking a gap year. He said I should apply for one there and said to bring my cv and cover letter in the next day and he would put in a good word for me. So I brought it in the next day and he gave me some tips if I got an interview and that if it was him doing it he would blag it. He called later that day to say that he and the other deputy manager has looked at my cv and that I can have an interview the next week with the manager.

Do you think he likes me? I'm very confused. I think he has been with his girfriend for some time about 3-5 years. And he recently went on holiday with her so he must be good with her. My friend thinks he likes me but I don't know as he has a girlfriend

Please give me your advice.

SavvyChic
Oct 24, 2010, 02:12 AM
Yeah, actually he likes you A lot, but he is good with his girlfriend, just stay confident and chill, chat, but overall, something will happen between you two. Don't let him cheat on his girlfriend, ever, you will regret it. But, it takes A lot for a guy to truly drop a girl, if they separate or break up, it can be temporary and he will come straight to you, so be wary, and due to working there, as it looks you will be, keep it kosher, don't flirt too hard, and respect the fact he's committed, it will work to your favor one day ;)

Devorameira
Oct 24, 2010, 07:23 AM
It appears that he does like you, but my advice is to not get romantically involved with him.

He has a girlfriend, which means he's totally off-limits, so stay away.

mmresd
Oct 24, 2010, 12:53 PM
I agree... back off while he has a girlfriend and don't ask if he likes you, because you well know that he likes you a lot. He seems to be faithful so extra points for him, and as far as the GF "problem" goes, make sure that is he who makes the decision of whether he would rather stay with his girlfriend or if he would trade you for her, because it is essentially what you are hoping for. So, stay tight and cross your fingers while he makes the decision. Also, keep in mind that he might just be a charming type of guy who you share a common interest with (games) because it seems as if when you ask him to go grab a drink he declined because he is faithful to his girlfriend and respects her feelings. And the "maybe another time" situation could mean that he just doesn't want to hurt his girlfriend and that he might have just been busy or had already made plans that particular day.

Good Luck,

Javi

mmresd
Oct 24, 2010, 01:22 PM
Did you not post this yesterday?

Devorameira
Oct 24, 2010, 04:16 PM
Yep - I'm sure I already read this exact post.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 24, 2010, 04:50 PM
Please do not cut and paste the same post over / and over
I have merged this to one post