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excon
Oct 23, 2010, 07:55 AM
Hello:

It appears to me, that young couples today are PRESUMED to be having sex. When I was young, it was PRESUMED that they weren't. Are there ANY couples who aren't doing it? Is it NORMAL for high schoolers to be sexually active? Am I showing my age? How come I was born when NOBODY was giving it up? What's fair about that?

excon

QLP
Oct 23, 2010, 08:10 AM
I get the impression you are a hot blooded male, but complaining nobody was giving it up when you were BORN is a little precocious in my book.

I think you need a few hobbies to take your mind off this terrible unfairness that has blighted your life thus far.

Enjoy the touch of light seasoning herein ;P

shazamataz
Oct 23, 2010, 06:12 PM
When I was in high school there were only 2 couples in the whole school who had had sex. One lost her virginity at 14 and we were all shocked, she was going out with a much older guy.
The other was around the same age but they had been dating for almost 3 years and kept it very quiet (until the gossip mongers got hold of it)

Since getting on Facebook I found out that not long after high school at least 3 of my friends have had kids, some have had 2-3.

Me personally, I just wanted to hold hands with a boy and the biggest thing was wearing your boyfriends jumper at lunch time.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 23, 2010, 06:31 PM
Guys did I just live on the wild side of life in the late 60's and 70's? I am sure there were some in school that did not have sex but the majority had at least once, many on a regular basis.

Wondergirl
Oct 23, 2010, 06:48 PM
Yeah, I know the feeling. I went to my wedding night as a virgin. Why, I ask now? What was the big deal? My h.s. classmate Sue married the basketball star right after graduation because she was pregnant. We were horrified! At the Lutheran college I went to, no one had cars back then, so the football field and dark stairwells at night were the two best places to, well, you know. The sounds that emanated from them remind me of part of a terrific story I once read about a Mexican prison.

I even missed the peace marches and sit-down demonstrations, was too busy studying for finals and in a year or two starting a career.

No fair for sure!!

Enigma1999
Oct 23, 2010, 09:17 PM
The kids in my school were having sex. Quite often too. For some reason or another, when girls became freshmans, they felt very strongly about losing their virginitys before the year was over.

We even had one teen pregnancy. She was only 15. I remember she would walk down the halls during passing period and it would be quiet. Everyone looked down at the ground. Poor girl, I always felt sorry for her.

For me though, I lost mine at 25 to my husband and I was very happy about that, and I'm not much older than that now. So I think it's a personal preference, not decade. I think that teenagers were doing it all along, they were just more discrete about it...

Alty
Oct 23, 2010, 09:43 PM
I went to a Catholic school, so of course everyone was having sex. At my high school graduation 4 girls graduated pregnant. The rest got lucky.

We live in a small town, if you're under 18 (which is the legal drinking limit) there's not much to do, other than have sex. Also, the winters are really cold, and sex keeps you warm.

Why do you think I have two kids born almost 9 months after Christmas? ;)

Enigma1999
Oct 23, 2010, 09:53 PM
I went to a Catholic school, so of course everyone was having sex. At my high school graduation 4 girls graduated pregnant. The rest got lucky.

We live in a small town, if you're under 18 (which is the legal drinking limit) there's not much to do, other than have sex. Also, the winters are really cold, and sex keeps you warm.

Why do you think I have two kids born almost 9 months after Christmas? ;)

So we should be expecting another pregnancy here in a couple of months, Alty? ;) You naughty girl.

Alty
Oct 23, 2010, 10:08 PM
So we should be expecting another pregnacy here in a couple of months, Alty??;) You naughty girl.

Lol. Nope, hubby is snipped. This baby factory is closed.

I don't even really have an excuse for Jared. It wasn't that cold that winter. It was Elnino (sp?) and unseasonable warm. We were still jacket free in January. Of course you Americans would have all been wearing parkas, but for us it was like spring. ;)

J_9
Oct 23, 2010, 10:33 PM
I just have to say that I am proud that my daughter who will be 17 in 2 weeks is still a virgin. Yes, we talk about that. I've given her the option for birth control, but she says she doesn't need it. Luckily we have a very open relationship.

Who says parents can't be friends? It's all in how you parent. Also, all of her friends are virgins. Remember, I live in the bible belt.

I won't talk about my own sex life. That's a thread in its own.

Justwantfair
Oct 23, 2010, 10:45 PM
If I could go back I would have made better choices, but when I was in high school, as a girl, I was lead to believe I was one of the last to lose her virginity at 16.

Back then, it felt like a label to wear, virgin was like the big X to never having a boyfriend. Now if I could I would go back and wear the X proudly, boyfriend or not.

I am sorry Exy, I wish you grew up in a looser time, so you wouldn't feel so shafted.

Alty
Oct 23, 2010, 11:00 PM
I feel the same way Justy. If I could go back I would wait.

I had one friend that had a child at 13, she got pregnant at 12. She was a shocker to all of us, not the norm, but not that far off.

My best friend in high school was 7 months pregnant at our graduation. She got married right away, and against all odds is still married today. Her son (who is now 22) is my Godson.

Enigma1999
Oct 24, 2010, 08:54 AM
Hello:

It appears to me, that young couples today are PRESUMED to be having sex. When I was young, it was PRESUMED that they weren't. Are there ANY couples who aren't doing it? Is it NORMAL for high schoolers to be sexually active?? Am I showing my age? How come I was born when NOBODY was giving it up? What's fair about that?

excon

How old are you anyway?

You make it sound as if you were around for the Titanic. Lol

excon
Oct 24, 2010, 09:04 AM
I feel the same way Justy. If I could go back I would wait.
How old are you anyway?Hello again,

If I could go back, I'd nail Carolyn Jones when I had the opportunity... In fact, I'm thinking about writing a book, called "The Pu$$y I DIDN'T Get". It would be epic..

E, I'm not old. I just feel sorry for myself sometimes...

excon

martinizing2
Oct 24, 2010, 09:40 AM
My age is showing too Ex.
I am assuming you and I are close in age , me being from the Triassic and you seem to be late Jurassic or early Cretaceous. Still a youngster.

When I was growing up it was always presumed that when you were talking about a couple , that they were different genders. Especially if sex was involved.

martinizing2
Oct 24, 2010, 09:48 AM
Hello again,

If I could go back, I'd nail Carolyn Jones when I had the opportunity... In fact, I'm thinking about writing a book, called "The Pu$$y I DIDN'T Get". It would be epic..

E, I'm not old. I just feel sorry for myself sometimes...

excon

I'm not old either, it takes this many years to get this good at... things That are worth being good at.
It is a cruel joke that sexual prime and physical prime take place many years apart.

Synnen
Oct 24, 2010, 01:12 PM
One in 7 girls in my graduating class had experienced a pregnancy, regardless the choice made (abortion, adoption, parenting) regarding the pregnancy.

I graduated in a class of 500. So... if you count that each girl got pregnant by a different guy, that's about 70 parents in my graduating class.

And those are just the ones that got "caught".

That's not to say everyone was having sex---I know of several people that graduated virgins.

But... it's a sad statistic.

And that was nearly 20 years ago.

Alty
Oct 24, 2010, 02:16 PM
I graduated a virgin, if virginity is based on vaginal sex (let's not get into that discussion again ;)). But, I was 17 when I graduated, and 17 when I lost my virginity (by that I mean penis in vagina sex. Boy, I'm disclosing a bit too much now, aren't I?).

A few of my friends were virgins in every sense of the word. A few even married as virgins (it was a Catholic school, a few of them did listen).

Looking back, a part of me wanted to be pure in some sense of the word, and to me virginity meant hymen intact, no vaginal sex, so the other stuff didn't count. Ya, welcome to being young and naïve.

ITstudent2006
Oct 24, 2010, 07:18 PM
Well I am I a lot younger then anyone who has posted thus far so my response will be... different.

I grew up in a town of 1500. Graduating class of 65. Small town, cold nights, cars/no cars, alcohol no alcohol, it didn't matter. We were "bonin'" regardless.

Different times now! I almost wish I grew up in different times. All the time I wasted worrying about Fridays party and getting laid, I mighta graduated with a higher GPA, gotten into a better school. HAHA :) naw I like my degree.

Rick

shazamataz
Oct 24, 2010, 08:46 PM
I graduated college at 16 still a virgin (That's year 12).

Still held on to it for a few years after that too.

Synnen
Oct 24, 2010, 10:47 PM
You graduated COLLEGE at 16??

HOLY CRAP!

Alty
Oct 24, 2010, 11:11 PM
You graduated COLLEGE at 16???

HOLY CRAP!!

I think she meant high school. :)

simoneaugie
Oct 25, 2010, 07:05 PM
My Mom married as a virgin, to a virgin. Neither believes in oral sex or masturbation. My Mom lived a very unhappy sexual life, always wanting it more. She told me all about it. Thanks Mom!

They were married in '57. My in-laws, marred around the same time share the same story, only they still happily have sex.

When I was in high school, in a class of 1500 only one girl went to school obviously pregnant. Sex wasn't talked about much. But in college, it was pretty much the main entertainment along with drinking and partying. We only had to worry about herpes as the only non-curable sex disease.

Women (according to a show I just watched) look for men who appear healthy, are financially stable and smell right. If a guy doesn't have HIV, bad herpes or wart outbreaks, his age doesn't really matter. So, it's never too late...

Also, the woman who is most willing to have sex isn't necessarily the most physically appealing. Shut your eyes and start bonin'! Never underestimate the power of attitude.

smoothy
Oct 26, 2010, 06:28 AM
I graduated and went through College during the period AIDS was making its presence known... and before they figured out what caused it.

Guys were always trying to get laid... (even my Fathers Generation) difference is what women today try to argue isn't really sex... really is... and somewhere along the way the concept of you have to put out to get a guy became engrained (hell 30 years ago you were a lucky SOB to get oral or anal from a woman). Personally I was always thankfull it wasn't as bad as it was during my parents time... and wishfull it was more like today. But the fact is I was a young guy... and thought #1 was getting laid with thought #2 being finding someone I could hang with as well. Unlike what most women were after hoping to land a life partner. Sex has a way to cloud judgement and it actually makes it harder to see a person for who they are. Trust me I had great sex with women I really didn't much care (in retrospect) for deeply back then, even though I didn't do one night stands. And the inexperience of youth makes that even harder. You need the clarity to see a person for who they really are IF you want a relationship that's going to last that won't go south the moment the excitement wears off.

And as was mentioned... Beauty fades... you better have a solid foundation.

Synnen
Oct 26, 2010, 08:14 AM
I just think it's sad that it really IS ingrained that sex is what makes you important as a teen.

If you're not pretty, or popular, or wear sexy clothes, your worth to guys just seems to be non-existant. NOT putting out doesn't get you respect. It gets you ignored.

I hate the parents that don't want to talk about sex to their 7-8-9 year olds. It NEEDS to start then. You don't need to talk about how good it feels or the mechanics---but you DO need to talk about self-worth, and respecting others, and all of that in relation to sex.

CravenMorhead
Oct 28, 2010, 01:28 PM
Not that I really need to chime in, but it is almost expect at this point in history. That being said, I lost mine at 19.

If two people are dating seriously, I assume that they're screwing as well. That has been the way of it for most my life.

In High School, 12-15 years ago, I wouldn't know who were virigns and who weren't. I knew by the end of it, most who had dated were probably not.

In University... all bets were off. I think it was more of a post feminist thing. I want to say revolution, but that's not right. Societal expectations changed. Way back when when a Kiss was thought to be scandalous, nothing intimate was expected until far into the relationship. When it was accepted a kiss or a makeout session was almost required at the end of the date and it was considered a bad date if it wasn't there.

It went down hill from there. Second base, third base, home run, sacrifice fly... I don't know where I am going with this.

Times are changing.