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dhahn2011
Oct 19, 2010, 09:11 PM
My boyfriend is 20 and I will be 18 in Feb. I'm still living at home but we want to get married when I turn 18. Will I still be on my parents insurance and will my parents find out if I am married?

justcurious55
Oct 19, 2010, 11:39 PM
If you're not mature enough to talk to your parents about this then you are not ready to marry. What's the rush anyway? What would be the point of getting married so quickly? If you're going to try to keep it from your parents (they will find out), then I'm guessing you don't have any plans to actually be starting a life with your husband. Which brings me back to, what's the point?

And no, you wouldn't be able to stay on their insurance. And I wouldn't count on them continuing to support you financially if you went behind their backs, secretly got married, and then attempted to hide it from them. They might. But if you were my kid and pulled a stunt like that, I'd help you get the moving boxes and pack your bags and let you learn the hard way what being an adult and being married means.

donf
Oct 20, 2010, 05:42 AM
D,

Justcurious is "Spot On" with her response.

Let's see, we were 18 when we eloped, I think the secret lasted about a week.

Now is the time to face some hard facts about life. When you marry, your place will be with your husband, not at home with Mom and Dad.

Why, if you are ready to be married haven't you figured out how you two are going to support yourselves? Continue your educations? Find a place to live?

Trust me, marriage is not for the faint of heart. It is difficult and wonderful at the same time.

answerme_tender
Oct 20, 2010, 12:04 PM
Your 17yrs and your fiancée is 20, Im pretty sure that if you get married secretly just so you can still be covered by your parents insurance, knowing this is false information, then I would imagine that company would consider that fradulent. You might want to double check me on this with some of our legal advisers on this site (they have the proper legal knowledge).
Life is awfully hard with out family to fall back on. If you get married behind your parents back, lets hope they themselves don't choose to keep those backs turned from you.
Parents can forgive their kids for making wrong choices, due to the fact they are making those mistakes as children. But hurting your parents like this might just be a hurt some parents choose not to forgive! Talk to other family members, or some type of advisors see what they say.

Jake2008
Oct 20, 2010, 01:37 PM
I agree with the advice given so far.

I presume that you have to hide your (now) boyfriend from your parents, and wondering if you could explain if that is part of the problem here.

Also, are you pregnant? You wouldn't likely be showing, or not showing enough that a good oversized blouse would cover up, if you were only about three months or so.

That aside, do you plan to marry and still remain with your parents? That is the only way I can see you keeping this a secret from them.

Then again, why would you do that in the first place.