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blackstar
Oct 15, 2010, 04:46 AM
Few years ago, one of my classmates and I become friends. I used to like him, but was to shy to tell him. However, one day we argued and deceided that it's better to give our friendship a short break. After a while, we deceided to give our friendship another try. Obviously this time our friendship became more limited due to the argument we had as both of us is emotionally hurt. Now I am afraid that we will argue again and this time our friendship will stop for real. At first, after the break, we used to say hello when we see each other, but now, I nod to him and he either starts talking to his friends, or else he would just give me a blank look like he does not know me.

Why do you think he is acting this way?

We used to contact each other a lot but now, it is like impossible to even say hello. I was thinking to send him a message to ask him if he is OK... but I do not want him to think that I am being paranoid or just imagining things... I just care for him as a friend.

What should I do?

CupcakeLover99
Oct 15, 2010, 05:01 AM
Hi,
Well, I know you're probably really sad that he's ignoring you, and that's not at all a problem. Try going up to him and directly talking to him, laughing and cracking jokes like nothing happened. He'll quickly catch on and when you have had a few laughs, ask something like 'do you want to catch a coffee with me' or something like that. He'd be in a good mood so the answer should be yes.
Hopes this helps!
CupcakeLover99 :)

joypulv
Oct 19, 2010, 12:46 PM
It sounds like you never talked about the argument. 'Obviously' nothing - there is never anything obvious about relationships and arguments and what it takes to scare someone off. That blank stare could be hurt, anger, pain cover up, or dislike - you won't know unless you start with 'hey can we talk alone sometime? I'd like to clear the air about what happened.' And you can always tell him that you miss his friendship and if you want more than that, it's OK to say that too. For all you know that is what was bothering him.

blackstar
Oct 19, 2010, 01:42 PM
Yep we never talked about it.I made many mistakes like the argument and saying sorry in messages & not telling him face to face.But,he replied with forgivness.I tried to talk about it,but he always changed subject.At first we were OK,but now its differen

blackstar
Oct 19, 2010, 01:51 PM
The argument was a year ago,and whenever I tried to talk about it,he said that it was past.That's why we never talked about it.Do you think that when I will see him next time I should go to him & talk like nothing happened or apologise once again?

beachloverjohn
Oct 19, 2010, 04:51 PM
I don't think he wants to be your friend anymore so you might as well leave it alone. There is nothing you can do about it if he is ignoring you. He couldn't have been much of a friend in the first place if he is treating you this way. So not really much of a loss.