pritta
Oct 11, 2010, 04:30 PM
We have been together for three years and had out fair share of arguments and disagreements, he has moved out a few times with the explanation of how he thinks I treat him unfairly and how I don't let him do what he wants to do and how I control him.
The thing is I am a very easy going kind of person, sure I get jealous but only by ex girlfriends who after being with some one for three years they still call him and ask him to visit, he has always been open about most girls and people in his life apart from one hence my reason to get jealous.
Anyway he moves out in a angry haste and then always comes back, when he leaves he acts like I am the worst person in the world and I have caused all of this and I will regret it etc but then always comes back and wants to chat and that chat always goes with him telling me its not working and he needs to be on his own and he is not happy with his life and then instead of going through with it he just hangs around and acts like nothing ever happened.
He constantly tells me how he hates the city we live in how much he hates his job and he wants to go back to the town he came from because everything is so screwed up here and he can't get a decent job, basically he complains about everything. Not only that but he always tells me I got it all because I work a really good job, all my friends are always around me and I have been saving heaps of money because we both wanted to go over seas for ages, he has saved about a third of what I have saved.
I don't know if he is angry at me or jealous of me but the anger is getting worse and worse, I always do little thing to try and make him feel more at ease like pay his rent and some bills, always buying dinners and never ask him to pay for anything if I am out getting it, most recently he borrowed my car and left rubbish all through it I mentioned how that annoyed me and he lost it at me.
I have been giving him lifts to work every day because his car was broken down and the other day I asked him to buy me a coke to which he turned around and asked me for money for I was rather baffled its like he can never ever shout me thing and expects that I will pay things and rarely says thanks or returns the favour. He has had a real bad run with work but at the same time its not like he has no money.
Recently we had a fight so I bit the bullet and bought a ticket overseas, we have both wanted to go for ages but he has not saved enough money.
I bought the ticket and told him the next day he was OK with it saying he doesn't want to hold me back from the opportunity he really wishes he could come with me but cant, so since then he has been trying to save money so that he could come along eventually.
Last night took the cake $60 went missing from our house and upon asking him if he had seen it or knew anyone who would take it because we both had friends over on the weekend he blamed me for taking it, then continued to call me every name under the sun, said I am dodgy and then told me how much he doesn't like me.
This continued all night and even today where he has told me he thinks I am a fake and obsessed with money and that I am a degenerate that he wished I would die, he ruined one of my surround sound speakers and told me he is moving out and wishes he did ages ago.
The things he said last night were the most horrible words to ever of come out of his mouth, he is convinced I have ruined everything by the way I use money against people, I honestly don't see this I am very generous and never ask people to pay me back he continued to cal me fake told me to f*** off and that my opinion doesn't matter and he doesn't care what I have to say. This along with numerous profanities, I don't know what has gotten into him, the words he said were so degrading and he usually just gets angry and goes away till he cools down. This time he has not stopped being horrible to me and abusing me and he is now leaving again. I don't know how to tell if this is jealousy or anger.
On any given day he can be the sweetest and most understanding down to earth kind of guy.
Any advice is helpful!
The thing is I am a very easy going kind of person, sure I get jealous but only by ex girlfriends who after being with some one for three years they still call him and ask him to visit, he has always been open about most girls and people in his life apart from one hence my reason to get jealous.
Anyway he moves out in a angry haste and then always comes back, when he leaves he acts like I am the worst person in the world and I have caused all of this and I will regret it etc but then always comes back and wants to chat and that chat always goes with him telling me its not working and he needs to be on his own and he is not happy with his life and then instead of going through with it he just hangs around and acts like nothing ever happened.
He constantly tells me how he hates the city we live in how much he hates his job and he wants to go back to the town he came from because everything is so screwed up here and he can't get a decent job, basically he complains about everything. Not only that but he always tells me I got it all because I work a really good job, all my friends are always around me and I have been saving heaps of money because we both wanted to go over seas for ages, he has saved about a third of what I have saved.
I don't know if he is angry at me or jealous of me but the anger is getting worse and worse, I always do little thing to try and make him feel more at ease like pay his rent and some bills, always buying dinners and never ask him to pay for anything if I am out getting it, most recently he borrowed my car and left rubbish all through it I mentioned how that annoyed me and he lost it at me.
I have been giving him lifts to work every day because his car was broken down and the other day I asked him to buy me a coke to which he turned around and asked me for money for I was rather baffled its like he can never ever shout me thing and expects that I will pay things and rarely says thanks or returns the favour. He has had a real bad run with work but at the same time its not like he has no money.
Recently we had a fight so I bit the bullet and bought a ticket overseas, we have both wanted to go for ages but he has not saved enough money.
I bought the ticket and told him the next day he was OK with it saying he doesn't want to hold me back from the opportunity he really wishes he could come with me but cant, so since then he has been trying to save money so that he could come along eventually.
Last night took the cake $60 went missing from our house and upon asking him if he had seen it or knew anyone who would take it because we both had friends over on the weekend he blamed me for taking it, then continued to call me every name under the sun, said I am dodgy and then told me how much he doesn't like me.
This continued all night and even today where he has told me he thinks I am a fake and obsessed with money and that I am a degenerate that he wished I would die, he ruined one of my surround sound speakers and told me he is moving out and wishes he did ages ago.
The things he said last night were the most horrible words to ever of come out of his mouth, he is convinced I have ruined everything by the way I use money against people, I honestly don't see this I am very generous and never ask people to pay me back he continued to cal me fake told me to f*** off and that my opinion doesn't matter and he doesn't care what I have to say. This along with numerous profanities, I don't know what has gotten into him, the words he said were so degrading and he usually just gets angry and goes away till he cools down. This time he has not stopped being horrible to me and abusing me and he is now leaving again. I don't know how to tell if this is jealousy or anger.
On any given day he can be the sweetest and most understanding down to earth kind of guy.
Any advice is helpful!