I've been off and on with this girl for about 4 years. We had our fights as everyone has. We broke up a few times, or I should say I broke up with her a few times except the last. She left me the last time. We tried to work things out but when we split the last time she told me she never wanted to be with me again. I was constantly changing my mind to talk to her or not because in a way I wanted her to move on but I still wanted to be with her. I'm still in love with her and she says she will always love me but she can't be with me anymore. Now she has started dating someone else. I don't think I need to say that I'm completely crushed, I'm sure anyone could see that. We are on speaking terms. I love talking to her and being around her. I've told her how I feel. I'm not going to lie, I'm going through some severe depression since losing her again. I can't shake these feelings. Is it wrong for me to try and be with her again? Am I being selfish? Should I be happy for her and try to move on?

Hmmm I think she still loves you and if she dating with someone else that means she is trying to hurt you or to make you feel her or she is trying to forget you and why don't you and her start a new life again and forget the past and try to prove yourself to her that you will change yourself.

And if she said no then move on!
Wish you a GOOD LUCK!!

If she still in love with you you have todo every thing to bring her back because she is making her self unhappy
But if she broke up with you because you cheated on her leave her because you will cheat on her adain and
Her hut will be crushed

I think the two of you have given this relationship plenty of chances. And the result was always the same. You split up. Eventually one of you was going to throw in the towel, and it looks like it was her. Now she has moved on and is seeing someone else. You have to do the same. I realize she is the love of your life, and you will not get over this easily. But if you can force yourself to have no more contact with her, eventually you will get over it. Anf if you truly love her, then leave her alone for her sake. She has a right to be happy also. I do feel your pain, but like I said before, you did have many chances, probably more than the average relationship, so be thankful for that, and look at it as a valuable lesson you learned so you won't make the same mistakes in your future relationships.

I can agree with you 100%. There's one problem, she still wants us to talk and be friends. I keep talking to her because its something that she wants but I know what it's doing to me. Do I need to tell her we can't talk anymore?

Do her one better, disappear from her life, and use strict No Contact to move on, and get a real life without her in it.

I believe I'm going to give this a full hearted try.

Maybe that's a good thing to do because if you talking to her because she want that and not what you want tell her that I can't talk to you anymore!!