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fabryb15
Oct 7, 2010, 02:00 PM
My girlfirend says she doesn't love me anymore the way she used to.

She's 15 and I'm 17. We've been together for 10 months and those were the best months of my life. She's not my first girlfriend so I can say with certainty that she's the love of my life. Okay, it may seem premature but I can picture my life with Her. And she could too. We were talking about getting married and staying together for the rest of our lives we even had the names of our future kids. I really enjoyed being with Her but a in January I got really drunk and kissed a girl. But a few minutes afterwards I told her I don't want anything from her because I have a girlfriend.

I didn't tell my girlfriend about this because I was afraid and I didn't want to cause pain for her. During those 10 months we had smaller and bigger fights because of her low self-esteem and my lack of patience. About three weeks ago I was forced to tell her about kissing the other girl and it was horrible. She was crying all day she said she never wanted to see me again and she'll never trust me again. But after a few days I managed to earn her forgivness. I thought everything is going to be all right. She started to talk about a boy in her school who's constantly stares at her and added her on Facebook, msn. And 6 days ago she told me that she wants to take a break. The next day I called her to talk about things. She was in a botanical garden with the boy from her school. What the hell? I rushed there to know what's going on but I couldn't speak to her. Two hours later she called me to meet and there she told me she wants to break up because she doesn't love me anymore. I was shocked, I didn't understand why. Yesterday we talked again and she told me that she loves me as a friend and she can't feel safe around me because she doesn't trust me (becouse of the kiss I think). I told her I'll be there for Her and wait for Her until I die.

I really want to hold Her in my arms again! Please someone help me find a way to do this. I know she's young and doesn't want to make commitments at the age of 15 but I know she's different. I've written a letter, made a Mix CD, planning to buy her flowers. I'm trying to be romantic because I know she loves that.

If you need more info I'll write it down for you. Please help! I'm desperate.

P.S.: Sorry for misspellings or grammar mistakes I'm still learning the language.

awayandalone
Oct 7, 2010, 02:07 PM
Sorry man. Regardless of the fact she may be different and possibly a very mature 15 year old, you both still have a lot of maturing to do. Plenty more relationships will come and go. Cut your losses here give her time to grow up and discover for herself what she wants in life. If its meant to be than later on in life you will see each other again.

Take this time to work on yourself and better yourself for the next one. You've had a relationship before you'll have one again.

Best of luck!

answerme_tender
Oct 7, 2010, 02:21 PM
What forced you to tell about the kissing the other girl? It sounded like you were going through some ups and downs even before you actually told her.
Its hard, but you are going to move on, she has. Keep your pride and stop trying to contact her. No more contact period, no letters, no cd's. You don't want to appear like your begging.
There are probably some really nice girls that would like to go out with you, but your to busy trying to get a girl who apparently already has a BOYFRIEND.

talaniman
Oct 8, 2010, 08:59 PM
Too late guy, she is gone for good, so no point in waiting for her to come back.

talaniman
Oct 9, 2010, 08:46 AM
fabryb15 does not find this helpful : I'm still hoping.
Well you just sit there hoping, until you get tired of waiting.

beachloverjohn
Oct 9, 2010, 10:06 AM
fabryb15, You have three strikes here'

1 She doesn't love you anymore.

2 She doesn't trust you.

3 And the biggest deal breaker of them all... She just wants to be friends.

So Tal is correct {had to spread the rep} she is gone. But hey, if you want to hope and wait, go ahead. You're only 17, she's got at least 70 more years to change her mind. Seriously Fabry, don't waste another minute on her. There will be others..

fabryb15
Oct 9, 2010, 10:49 AM
Thank you for answering!
You made me realize it's a lost cause and I'll try to froget her. For now. But if I wait a few years and if the time is right and I'll still have fellings for her... should I try it? What do you think?

beachloverjohn
Oct 9, 2010, 11:17 AM
Thank you for answering!
You made me realize it's a lost cause and I'll try to froget her. For now. But if I wait a few years and if the time is right and I'll still have fellings for her... should I try it? What do you think?

Absolutely. You never know what the future will bring. But in the mean time, finish your education, get a good job, save your money, and date a few models. And after all that if you still want her,then go for it.

fabryb15
Oct 12, 2010, 09:58 AM
Okay. Seriously. It's over. I saw her with the other boy holding hands today. I'm moving on.
Thanks for answering again!