Hi my wife is HIV+ and she never tries to know the problems arising due to this, my married life is ruinned and I don't know what I should do to her so that she can know the importance of se###

Hello s:

I'm sorry for your circumstance... But, in THIS day and age, if your wife DOESN'T know how to take care of herself AND her family during this trying time, you can't make her learn how.

excon

I am not certain I understand your question.

How long has your wife known that she is HIV+? What is her health like at this time? What is her prognosis? What medications, if any, is she on?

What do you mean by 'she never tries to know the problems arising due to this'? What problems is she 'not knowing'? Is she taking precautions to keep the rest of her family healthy since she isn't?

Your last line leads me to think that the way your marriage is 'ruined' by her not having sex with you. Is she healthy enough for sex? Is she trying not to infect you? Have you both sat down and discussed ways to have safe sex with her doctor? Are you trying to get permission to stray from the marriage and find someone who isn't HIV+ to fill your sexual needs?

These days people can live long and relatively normal lives with HIV, however, precautions do have to be taken and planning for the worst case must be done. Is she not planning for a future that may not include her? Are you?

You can't force your wife to get the knowledge to help herself. However I would check see if there is any local support groups for people with HIV and their families. If there is why not go yourself. You might actually find others going through similar situations. Obtaining all the information on do"s and dont's will help the family as a whole.

Maybe you both could use some useful information, and some support.