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belle_kai
Sep 26, 2010, 03:27 PM
Basically I like this guy. We get on really well. He's always looking at me, asking about my fav music and stuff and wants to go to a concert, which I said no to but, when I was about to walk out the door I was waiting to move because I had my aunt in front and he was sort behind me and put his hand on my back for a second. ( he was walking us out of his place) did this mean anything?
It was on the shoulder blade/back
Enigma1999
Sep 26, 2010, 03:34 PM
Hello Belle,
First of all, if you like this guy, how come you said no to the concert? That sounds like fun.
As for him putting his hand on you, I wouldn't take it the wrong way. When I have guests at my house, and it's time for them to go, I do the same thing to the very last person walking out of the door. To me, any way, it's a sign of comfort and respect for coming over. That is to me.
I wouldn't read too much in that.
mystific
Sep 26, 2010, 03:39 PM
Sounds to me he was being gentlemanly.
Generally from what I know the hand on the top half of your back is a leading / guiding gesture. Like in dancing.
talaniman
Sep 26, 2010, 07:28 PM
That's what gentlemen do, (or has great manners which is great, but means nothing as to his true nature) and he has an interest in taking you out, but his true intentions are for you to find out.
No hurry if your not sure, or uncomfortable. How old are you?
Jake2008
Sep 26, 2010, 09:40 PM
Really, what it truly means is, "Hey baby, I really like you, maybe even I love you, and, like, you're just the hottest thing I've seen in a long time. I touch your back because that is really saying, I want to be with you forever, and I want you to have my babies, clean my house, and wash the car once a week. I was merely checking to make sure you had a straight spine, so that you could lift heavy objects in and out of my pickup truck."
Of course I'm kidding you, but trying to interpret a mannerly gesture into a bigger meaning is a waste of your time. Now if he had smacked your rear, that would be an entirely different story.
If you are interested in him, ask him out. No need to sit around and wait for him to call, text, IM, or send a message on Facebook.
You will not otherwise know, whether he is interested or not.
CarrotTalker
Sep 27, 2010, 02:15 AM
Your previous post: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/hand-back-while-walking-out-door-511089.html
Already has several responses, please refer to that.
Devorameira
Sep 27, 2010, 06:27 AM
He was just being nice to you - that's what polite guys do.
beachloverjohn
Sep 27, 2010, 05:42 PM
Maybe he was trying to get you to move faster. Honestly, what could that possibly mean. He is in love with you? I wouldn't read a thing into that. Nothing, zilch, notta.
belle_kai
Sep 28, 2010, 08:35 AM
What does that mean exactly. My good friend just told me the other day and I never knew I did it, she said sometimes I don't say anything but people do things for me by me just looking at me or say something to me like they know what I'm thinking.
redhed35
Sep 28, 2010, 08:49 AM
You may have expressive eyes,meaning your feelings show in your eyes and on your face.
I would take it as a compliment.
belle_kai
Sep 28, 2010, 02:39 PM
I went on holiday to visit a family friend my dad knows and we are all the same culture, my 'aunt' (fathers good friend) has a grandson who is the same age as me and is good looking, they all wanted him to take me out (before I met him), when he came in the room everyone was saying his name and saying its nice you're here then he came over and shooked my hand and introduced himself to me but he was looking deep in my eyes for longer than the handshake, my initial thought was 'ok OK I can see you' lol
He's a good looking guy and I like him but I find it awkward that it's a family friend.
Does he like me or.. was he being polite and that's just who he is?
Thank you
Marriedguy
Sep 28, 2010, 03:00 PM
Not enough information to tell. You need to spend more time with him. The sights and signals will become clear. If not update your post.
TheAnswerWolf
Sep 28, 2010, 03:05 PM
Sounds to me like he was pretty enamored with you. If you don't want to take the risk of embarrassing yourself, just spend more time with him. Get to know him a little bit before you make any romantic endeavors
talaniman
Sep 28, 2010, 03:42 PM
Post feed back and stop starting new post please.
beachloverjohn
Sep 28, 2010, 03:52 PM
He only did it for a SECOND. That makes a world of difference. No, it doesn't mean anything. Now if he had kept it on your back for at least 30 seconds, well now that's something else. That's almost like a proposal. But a second, that's just being polite. But I think he might like you, so like Jake said, ask him out.