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feebie19
Sep 22, 2010, 06:05 AM
I'm interested in this guy but not sure if he likes me or just playing games.

I met him a few months back threw a mate who was trying to set us up, about 4 weeks ago I saw him again around my mates house an we spent all night speaking he walked me to the bus stop and asked for my number I said I may give it to you when I see you at my mates wedding in a few days.
So the wedding come around and we spent most of the time chatting, he bought me champane, then we shared our first kiss. When the reception was over we went back to my mates house, then after we went back to mine, things got steamy but there was no intercorse.
A week later he come over again the same happened we got streamy but no intercorse, a few days after that he come back over but nothing happened not even a kiss.

So a week after that, two fridays ago I went to my mates house and he was there, I got a little drunk so he walked me to the cab station an I asked if he was coming an he said no. So I left it at that.
Last Friday come around an I went to my mates again an she walked me to the cab station and when I called her to let her know I was home he made a fuss that he wanted to come back to mine with me so I told him to get in a cab and come over so he did. Things got very steamy but no intercorse, I asked him the next day and he said he didn't want to take advantage because I was drunk and said that his not coming over to stay any more because he does not want to get to deep with me was his not nice to women.
I called him on Monday to see if he wanted to come over and he said he was playing his computer console, so Iasked him if he was serious about not coming over anymore an he said yes.

Is he playing hard to get or just messing me around, Im going to my mates this Friday and he will proberly be there and Im not sure what I should do.
He has come out with a few comments before like "i treat them mean to keep them keen" Im confused as if he didn't like me he wouldn't come over would he?

Devorameira
Sep 22, 2010, 06:31 AM
I respect the fact that he didn't take advantage of you while you were drunk, but his comments about treating women mean aren't normal at all. Someone has had to tell him that he's mean in order for him to admit it.

I'd avoid and forget about this guy. He seems to have some inner demons that you shouldn't get acquainted with.

Homegirl 50
Sep 22, 2010, 07:27 AM
Catch a clue. This boy is not for you. He even knows it, he even told you so.
Stop throwing yourself at him, asking him over. You sound desperate and that is not attractive.
Leave him alone.

talaniman
Sep 22, 2010, 09:29 AM
No he is not interested in anything but treating you mean, and that's about having sex, and not in dating or having a relationship, just a booty call.

Come on that's what he told you, so now you know his game, and his interest. I think, you think a few steamy make out sessions ( alcohol induced no doubt), is an indication of interest. It is but its all about lust and the physical. He was being nice to get in your pants, but when he didn't, he decided to go elsewhere and won't be back until he gets what he wants, and that's not a relationship at all.

Ever hear of Slam, Bam, Thank you ma'am!!!? Same thing as "i treat them mean to keep them keen"

I wish
Sep 22, 2010, 01:51 PM
If you're serious about him, then stop playing games and be straight up. Unfortunately it does not seem like he's taking you that seriously. It definitely sounds like a booty call from what you've described.

If you want to be with him, then let him know. But if he doesn't want the same thing as you, then you can't force him to be with you.

As for your choice of men, it doesn't sound like he's interested in a serious relationship, sounds more like he just wants to have a friends with benefits arrangement. Is that what you really want?