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GABAA
Sep 21, 2010, 09:29 AM
Hi everyone!!
Above all thank you very much for this great work that you guys are getting it done!!

Thereafter I would also like to get some advices from ALL OF YOU about my relation,

I have been loving one of my neighbours ladies but unfortunately I couldn't get any access to let her know about my feelings ,due to we were not in the same school and she even usually does not get chance to get out of the house alone.

Fortunately 5 years back I found out her phone number and contacted her,told her about my feelings,talked too much through phone but I never get acces to meet her face to face until I travelled to ASIA for 3 years ,and I never stop calling her (at least twice a week),she sometimes did pick the phone up and sometimes not,and I never receive any call from her during my 3 years staying abroad.

I went back home last year and told her that I am already back... she nicely welcomed me and was very happy about my coming back.. and we started meeting each other and loving each other,BUT she always says that she has never been loved by a boy as I love her... she really loved me as well for some few months after my arrival,and asked me so many times to marry her,and ultimately she went to MOROCCO to pursue her studies,when she reached there called me and gave me her phone number,and I kept being in touch with her,later on she changed and even didn't pick her phone up some times.

One day I called her to greet her and she says that YOU... DON"T KEEP CALLING ME, I really got surprised and I kindly asked her if we could be friends for our remaining lives,she said NO... 1 month later I called her and talked to her,that call made her changed a bit and we kept in touch again.. SINCE our relation started I am always the one who has been keeping the relation healthy,by calling her too much and sending her messages.

Later on she started doing the same thing again,she does not pick the phone up and even don't call me... one day I called and she said that (in a joking way by smiling)you are making my receiving box full by sneding a lot of messages and even putting my battery low,so I may change my number... )THAT really hurted me and I said that it's okay,don't change your number I won't disturb you again,good luck in your studies.. when she has noticed that I spoke in a different way ,she said that let's keep in touch and so on so far... since that I never call her nor message her... one month later she wrote me an ordinary message,never mentioned something like I love you (lol)... I didn't reply and after one week she wrote again something quite interesting and meaningful to me than the previous one.. (started by dear love and was ended by I should at least respond to her)... I was online the time that I received the message,and wrote back a simple message,(hi how are you.. I am online currently)... and she has not replied yet...

AS A CONCLUSION I can say that I really love her but she's kind of the lady that she doesn't love her partner when she finds out that he loves her too much,and she makes serious love signs when I pretend or intend like I don't care about her... so I don't know whether I got to call her to tell her my decision that I don't want to be in love with her any more or just reconciliate or just go like that without saying anything? I need some help please to get out from this deep problem... thanx again

beachloverjohn
Sep 21, 2010, 11:21 AM
Look, you sound like a nice guy. So do yourself a favor, and lose her number. She is just playing games with your head. Find somebody that knows what she wants, and has her feet firmly on the ground. You don't love this girl, you're simply infatuated with her. She's got you so you don't know if your coming or going. Don't fall into her silly trap, and let some other guy deal with this fickle fatale..

GABAA
Sep 21, 2010, 11:53 AM
Thank you very much dear for your great advice!! Besides I would like to know that,I should better let her know my (breaking)decision about the relation or just ignore her like that without even saying a word..
Thanks

GABAA
Sep 21, 2010, 11:55 AM
Thank you very much dear for your great advice!! Besides I would like to know that,I should better let her know my (breaking)decision about the relation or just ignore her like that without even saying a word..
Thanks

talaniman
Sep 21, 2010, 04:58 PM
Disappear from her life and completely ignore her attempts to contact you. 5 years is enough of this game, as she is a lousy friend to have any way.

Jake2008
Sep 21, 2010, 09:18 PM
I agree with the others, this woman is a few tacos short a combination plate.

I hope that during all these years you had a social life, and didn't pin your hopes and dreams on this person.

Please stop and replay this relationship. Hot, cold, hot, very cold, luke warm, ice cubes, warm, briefly hot, cold. You really can do much, much better, and I hope you raise your standards a bit, and find someone a little more worthy of your time.

Shadowburn
Sep 22, 2010, 07:59 AM
I really don't see what you were getting out of this so called relationship. You don't mention anything more then phone conversation and obsessive calling on your part when she repeatedly asked you to stop.

Do yourself a favor and forget all about her. 5 years is way too long to pester someone who openly told you more then once she is not interested. I'm sure she liked the attention or she won't be seeking it now, but come on.

Good luck.

Alty
Sep 22, 2010, 08:32 AM
Disappear from her life and completely ignore her attempts to contact you. 5 years is enough of this game, as she is a lousy friend to have any way.

I had to spread the rep, but I agree.

With friends like her you don't need enemies.

OP, she's made it clear many times that she's not interested, it's time for you to get the hint and leave her alone, find someone that actually wants your love and attention.

I wish
Sep 22, 2010, 02:03 PM
She hasn't been taking you seriously, yet you've become her dormat. What's wrong with this picture?

Time to get some self-respect. It's harsh as it is to hear, healthy relationships don't operate on a one-way street.

Find someone else to have a healthy relationship with.

Homegirl 50
Sep 22, 2010, 03:55 PM
You don't really have a relationship.
Call it a day and leave her alone. I would imagine it would not break her heart if you don't call write or explain anything to her.
Don't accept messages or phone calls from her.
Today is the end of this. No more contact from now on.
I wish you well.