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KylieHammond
Sep 21, 2010, 07:01 AM
I will be 19 soon and my boyfriend just turned 26.
I as the type of girl that couldn't stick to one person, but always needed someone in my life.
Since I met Juha (my boyfriend) I can't stop thinking about a life together and starting a family.
I know I am too young to get married, and we haven't disscussed it, but it doesn't need to be said, I know we are both feeling the same way and we are head over heals.
I don't know if this is love or lust and I don't want to mistake it for something its not.
His mother wants him to settle down and get married and I know he is ready, and I truly feel I am too.
It's very cliché but for some reason I just know.
I don't live close to my family and I know they will disaprove of the age difference, and I think when his mother finds out she might too.

Should I put my heart into this fully? I don't want to fall in love only to get rejected in the end.
I guess I don't have a direct question, I just need advice, please help!

talaniman
Sep 21, 2010, 10:24 AM
Take the time to see if this is love or lust, and if you are compatible. What's the hurry? How long have you been together, and is this a long distance relationship? How well do you know each other, and what are the cultural differences, and will they affect the way you live? Are you having sex?
These are all questions to talk about before you get married and have kids, and not just assume your partner feels the same way about all things as you do.

Don't assume, or presume just because you have strong feelings for another person, GET THE FACTS!! What's the hurry, you have forever to do this the right way, and not just because it feels good now.

Homegirl 50
Sep 21, 2010, 10:30 AM
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.


Take the time to see if this is love or lust, and if you are compatible. Whats the hurry? How long have you been together, and is this a long distance relationship? How well do you know each other, and what are the cultural differences, and will they affect the way you live? Are you having sex?
These are all questions to talk about before you get married and have kids, and not just assume your partner feels the same way about all things as you do.

Don't assume, or presume just because you have strong feelings for another person, GET THE FACTS!!! Whats the hurry, you have forever to do this the right way, and not just because it feels good now.

This says it all.