Hello me and my boyfriend just started trying to have sex. He can get it hard but as soon as a condom goes on it doesn't seem to be hard anymore and this stops the whole process. As he gets wound up and frustrated. Can you give me any advice on how we can get round this problem ?
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hello me and my boyfriend just started trying to have sex. He can get it hard but as soon as a condom goes on it doesnt seem to be hard anymore and this stops the whole process. As he gets wound up and frustrated. Can you give me any advice on how we can get round this problem ?
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I can't/won't give advice to a 16 year old on having sex.

Obviously, it's a sign from God, saying you two shouldn't be having sex until you are not only at an legal age, but until you can take on the responsibility of a baby.

I didn't ask for abuse about my own choice I just want some answers. Its not like we are not legal so if you aren't going to answer then please don't post I don't like time wasters!

i didnt ask for abuse about my own choice i just want soem answers. its not like we are not legal so if you arent gonna answer then please dont post i dont like time wasters !!

I wasn't trying to abuse. It is your choice. Not mine.

I will tell you this, NO EXPERT, and I mean NO EXPERT here at AMHD will give advice to a 16 year old about having sex.

If you would have read the rules for AMHD, you would see that the Adult Sexuality forum is for people 18 and over.

I'm 18 thank you very much.

im 18 thankyou very much.

So you're having sex with a minor?

He's 17 next month and I've just turned eighteen last week so if you don't mind and get off my question... like I said before I don't like time wasters!

he's 17 next month and ive just turned eighteen last week so if you dont mind and get off my question.......like i said before i dont like time wasters !!

Seems your wasting our time. What state is this as not all states have 16 as age of consent. Also this is an open forum and you can't dictate how others respond. Enigma is a respected member here in good standing.

We don't allow posters to tell us what kind of advice to give so either like it or not. You are too young and from the way you come across to others, you are very immature.

You are too young to have sex. Think about pregnancy and STDs and just plain good choices. You are certainly to immature to have a child.

Enigma and CalDad gave you excellent advice. Take it. You might want to buy a book on manners.

Can you give me any advice on how we can get round this problem ?


Yep, stop having intercourse. NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse until they are physically, emotionally and financially prepared to have a child.


i didnt ask for abuse about my own choice i just want soem answers. its not like we are not legal so if you arent gonna answer then please dont post i dont like time wasters !!

The only one wasting time here is you. This site has rules and policies. One of those rules is that the Adult Sexuality forum is for adults. By posting for advice for a 16 year old you violated that rule. And frankly I don't believe you are 18. It is very rare for an 18 yr old girl to be involved with a 16 yr old boy.

Another policy of this site is that askers do not dictate who can answer their questions or how. As long as the response does not violate our rules (in which case you use the report link) anyone can respond any way they choose fit. And none of the people who participate regularly here is going to help minors engage in sex.

Finally no one "abused" you. Enigma expressed her choice not to assist minors having sex. Whether you believe it or not, Enigma did exactly what this site stands for, giving the best advice applicable to the situation. And that best advice is not to engage in sexual intercourse.

Have him ask his father to show him the correct way to use a condom.

Sounds like the boy is just not ready at this point, If he can not retain his erection long enough to get a condom on, he is honestly and really just not ready yet

Why is everyone going on at her about pregnancy and stds? She's using a condom! Praise the girl for gods sake! Plenty of teenagers don't and get themselves stuck in a bad situation. Teenagers are going to have sex and there's nothing we can do to stop it. So lets just make sure its safe.

Why is everyone going on at her about pregnancy and stds?! She's using a condom! Praise the girl for gods sake! Plenty of teenagers don't and get themselves stuck in a bad situation. Teenagers are going to have sex and there's nothing we can do to stop it. So lets just make sure its safe.


We do not encourage sex at such a young age here on this site. If they don't know how to use a condom, odds are they shouldn't be having sex.

Why is everyone going on at her about pregnancy and stds?! She's using a condom! Praise the girl for gods sake! Plenty of teenagers don't and get themselves stuck in a bad situation. Teenagers are going to have sex and there's nothing we can do to stop it. So lets just make sure its safe.

There are a lot things that teenagers will do that they are not supposed to. We can't control their actions. We can try to change their perception of what is correct and incorrect behavior.

Read the pregnancy threads and see how many people who were using birth control properly have gotten pregnant. There is not a 100% safe way to have sex unless it is after the female reproductive organs have been removed.

hard95, it is better to wait until you are better able to handle the possible consequences of sex. Abstinence and building up the non-sexual aspects of the relationship are far better than taking a chance that he won't lose the condom after you start having intercourse which is what sounds like is about to happen.

Why is everyone going on at her about pregnancy and stds?! She's using a condom!

Condoms do not prevent pregnancy 100%. Trust me, I deliver babies to many teens who used a condom.

Why is everyone going on at her about pregnancy and stds?! She's using a condom! Praise the girl for gods sake! Plenty of teenagers don't and get themselves stuck in a bad situation. Teenagers are going to have sex and there's nothing we can do to stop it. So lets just make sure its safe.

Yes there is something we can do to stop it. We can try to educate teens on the risks they are taking. We should not be condoning dangerous behavior and this site will not do so.