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MsKitts
Sep 17, 2010, 08:41 AM
In a year and a half to 2 years, he will be a certified nurse. I'm so happy for him and proud of him. He's come a long way!
But, while he's practicing on fellow student's I can't help feeling weirded out by this.
I don't really like the fact that he's going to go away for 12 hours, touch a bunch of people( in a bunch of places); and then come home and expect to TOUCH ME. It almost makes me feel sick.
Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to cope with it?
I feel it may ruin our intimate encounters(on my end anyway... )

Wondergirl
Sep 17, 2010, 08:54 AM
I'm female, and the best nurses I had last fall during three hospital stays were male. They were smart, well-trained, and were strong (to move me from bed to cart and back again a couple of times).

I worked as an aide in two hospitals years ago, and everyone's body looks pretty much like everyone else's. After seeing the 6th big toe, there's nothing left to imagine. And nurses see 600+ of them while in training. An aide/nurse/doctor doesn't think twice or in a sexual manner about patients' bodies. Most of the time they are too busy and too involved in the medical aspect of a patient's care, so that ogling sexual body parts is the least of their concern.

If I were you, I'd be proud of my guy that he will be involved in such a much-needed service to humanity. Nursing desperately needs male workers, as that field grows rapidly with an aging population. He will very easily be able to give you his complete attention in the romance department.

***ADDED*** In fact, because of his nursing training and experience, he will probably be a superior lover and partner -- empathetic of you and knowledgeable about how both of your bodies work.

Wondergirl
Sep 17, 2010, 10:05 AM
MsKitts : Thank you so much for your reply. It helps a little. I guess I'm just afraid he'll meet "someone" at work... or see someone/something, & I won't feel/be special to him anymore. I'm already really good at feeling self-concious about myself =(
If he's a ditchdigger or an animal control officer, he could "meet someone at work." If after seeing and hearing and experiencing all that he does as a nurse, yet he is still able to hold you in his arms and tell you he loves you with all his heart, be very, very grateful for him and be sure to show your appreciation!

Since you have a problem with self esteem and trusting him (and this would be the situation no matter what job he has -- a nursing career is not the problem), it would be a good thing if you get some counseling so you don't destroy a wonderful opportunity for happiness.

MorticiaNoire
Sep 18, 2010, 01:18 AM
Well you haven't really defined what you mean by he is touching and practising on his fellow students? What exactly is he practising? When I trained as a nurse we practised blood pressures and things like that,and we washed an arm,leg or foot ot face on each other, but anything more personal was a no-no.we would practice on proper patients with supervision for things like that. And also practice on dummies..