michelle1967
Sep 11, 2010, 08:15 AM
I am themanager of a company and my boss is the owner. I have worked with him for two years and always had an excellent relationship with him. He si currently divorcing his wife and has become a better person (I think so anyway) - more involved in the business and the people in it - although as I said, we have always been very friendly.
A couple of weeks ago we had a staff night out and I drank a liitle too much - not legless, but enough to loosen my tongue. We spent a lot of the evening together, danced together, he paid for everything for me and I ended up telling him that I found him attractive, that it was a shame for the business that we hadn't ever gotten it together and then he asked me to come away with him for the weekend (he's a had a few drinks too!). I wasn't so tiddled that I do not remember the conversation - we talked about where he was at emotionally right now and that he had to live a little before embarking on another relationship as I was no way going to be a fling or just a quick fumble. He seemed amused that I thought he would use me in that way. Then we were interrupted and conversation ceased. In the cold light of day, I thought I had been a little stupid so emailed him an apology and blamed the drink. I made a joke of it to relieve the pressure for both of us. And since then we have not discussed it - although I hear through a friend of a friend that he is chasing another woman right now. We are still very close professionally, spend lots of time alone at work and there is no discomfort between us - but did I read it all wrong? Why is it not mentioned? Was he not serious about it or was it the drink talking - although he wasn't that drunk. He is always telling me that I am an excellent manager and just two days after the evening out he gave me a huge cash bonus... I really do not know what is going on here and feel as if I have been bought off to keep quiet. A close friend feels that he is aware that I am perhaps struggling financially and as he respects me professionally then he was making sure that I was OK... I'm not in turmoil over this but do genuinely care for this chap. Any help appreciated.
A couple of weeks ago we had a staff night out and I drank a liitle too much - not legless, but enough to loosen my tongue. We spent a lot of the evening together, danced together, he paid for everything for me and I ended up telling him that I found him attractive, that it was a shame for the business that we hadn't ever gotten it together and then he asked me to come away with him for the weekend (he's a had a few drinks too!). I wasn't so tiddled that I do not remember the conversation - we talked about where he was at emotionally right now and that he had to live a little before embarking on another relationship as I was no way going to be a fling or just a quick fumble. He seemed amused that I thought he would use me in that way. Then we were interrupted and conversation ceased. In the cold light of day, I thought I had been a little stupid so emailed him an apology and blamed the drink. I made a joke of it to relieve the pressure for both of us. And since then we have not discussed it - although I hear through a friend of a friend that he is chasing another woman right now. We are still very close professionally, spend lots of time alone at work and there is no discomfort between us - but did I read it all wrong? Why is it not mentioned? Was he not serious about it or was it the drink talking - although he wasn't that drunk. He is always telling me that I am an excellent manager and just two days after the evening out he gave me a huge cash bonus... I really do not know what is going on here and feel as if I have been bought off to keep quiet. A close friend feels that he is aware that I am perhaps struggling financially and as he respects me professionally then he was making sure that I was OK... I'm not in turmoil over this but do genuinely care for this chap. Any help appreciated.