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ultimate4000
Sep 10, 2010, 11:00 PM
Well. There is a girl that I really really really really like. I've liked her for a while now. That was a lie. I've liked her since freshman of high school. When I transferred to her school and she was one of the girls I noticed. When she walked into the room, for some reason I could take my eyes of her. Yes she was very pretty and all that... but that wasn't what I noticed about her. I felt some kind of strange connection between me and her. I'm still pretty new at the school so I didn't know who she was. Also I was very shy back in 9th grade. When Junior came back around, she was still in my head, even though I dated someone for a while because I was trying to forget her. But with all honesty, I couldn't forget about her... it was like she was engraved in my skull. The only problem I have is that I'm not sure if she likes me back at all. But I think I'm just going to tell her regardless if she likes me or not. For me, things went from been a simple crush to liking liking her, Junior year is when I was really serious about wanting to ask her out. I'm still shy (especially around her). Any suggestions of what I should do?
Jake2008
Sep 11, 2010, 02:48 AM
If you think that the feelings are mutual, and both of you are stalled in getting past the shyness to make a connection, it is time to find out.
Several ways to do that. One is to let her know, even indirectly, that you are interested. Maybe a mutual friend can break the ice, or maybe add her on Facebook. If you have classes together, try just saying 'hi- how are things going' to open up some dialogue.
If she looks at you like you have two horns in your head, and keeps walking, you will know she's not interested. But, if she smiles, and starts talking back, you will have established enough to get you out of the starting gate.
You need something to build on, and guessing and wondering will not get you anywhere.
Start small, with simple conversation, and see what happens.
If you don't, you will never know.
Jake2008
Sep 11, 2010, 09:30 AM
Well, that's good! You have a pretty good idea what's up then. You are in a much better position that just knowing, or seeing her, from a distance
Slip her a note. Ask her if she wants to go to a movie, or a walk, or out for a coffee Friday night. Ask her for her phone number, and would it be okay for you to call.
All you have to do is just start. The initial actually'asking', could simply be a note. "What are you up to this weekend". Take it from there.
I know it sounds simple, but it is simple. Muster up that courage, and direct it into making something positive happen.
ultimate4000
Sep 11, 2010, 09:24 PM
Right now, I'm really confused because my family is moving soon and I'm not sure if I should tell her that I like her or not.
Christina420
Sep 29, 2010, 08:46 PM
Just go for it... be blunt, don't beat around the bush... ravish her.. in a way. Girls like confident guys. Be confident..
Say something like "you are an extremely beautiful girl and i would love if you went out with me.:" or "honored if u went out with me" I don't know whatever you like..
answerme_tender
Sep 30, 2010, 06:56 AM
If you just get to scared to just come out and bluntly ask her, why not try writing her letter.
talaniman
Oct 2, 2010, 01:28 PM
Every time you let fear stop you from something, then you miss an opportunity to have a bit of happiness, until that opportunity passes, and you regret not acting. Then its too late to go back and see what will happen.