BlueMoodsNJustin
Aug 27, 2010, 01:22 PM
I am 54 years old, I live in Volusia County Florida and my 21 year old son lives with me. We have had a volatile relationship for years and as he has grown from child to teenager to young adult he has become increasingly verbally abusive, bullying and intimidating. But other than mentally and emotionally I have never feared for my safety until recently.
The other night we were engaged in a verbal altercation, which unfortunately we had both had a bit too much to drink; otherwise I would have left and gone to my boyfriend's apartment which is where I spend 99% of my time now in order to avoid drama and conflict as much as possible. However, the alcohol made me bold and I refused to back down when he told me in very ugly words that I needed to leave... MY apartment! I pay the rent and all the bills and he pays only his cell phone bill. I saw red, refused to leave and the altercation escalated. He pushed me into a wall twice, shoved me into the living room sofa, knocked my glasses off my face sending them flying across the room and during all this he was also breaking and throwing many household objects and appliances. When he knocked my glasses off I called the police for help. He told the police that he only pushed me once, in self defense because I was threatening him with a butcher knife... which is completely untrue. I was arrested and charged with aggravated battery dv, a felony.
Until that night I had a spotless record, not even a jaywalking ticket! My son on the other hand was on juvenile probation from age 14 - 19 stemming from domestic battery towards me followed by numerous violations of probation. He spent a great deal of time in juvenile facilities because of the repeated violations.
He also has a history of slight violence (unreported) from age 8 through 14, including throwing gravel and rocks at me, trying to push me off a sidewalk into oncoming traffic, putting his hands around my throat to choke me (he stopped when our ride pulled up and became all smiles and congenial), slamming a door on my bare foot resulting in bruising and swelling, and other incidents.
Unless you consider spanking to be a violent act I have never threatened or assaulted my son physically in any way.
My question is can his juvenile record and child hood history and patterns of violence be brought up in court to dispute his claim?
I did sustain bruises, "goose eggs" other minor aches and pains, and bruised and/or fractured ribs that night. With my pending charges in which I am the alleged batterer and he is the victim, would it be possible to file for an injunction against him? Knowing now that he his quite capable of physical violence I no longer feel safe in my own apartment and avoid being there as much as possible unless he is out.
The other night we were engaged in a verbal altercation, which unfortunately we had both had a bit too much to drink; otherwise I would have left and gone to my boyfriend's apartment which is where I spend 99% of my time now in order to avoid drama and conflict as much as possible. However, the alcohol made me bold and I refused to back down when he told me in very ugly words that I needed to leave... MY apartment! I pay the rent and all the bills and he pays only his cell phone bill. I saw red, refused to leave and the altercation escalated. He pushed me into a wall twice, shoved me into the living room sofa, knocked my glasses off my face sending them flying across the room and during all this he was also breaking and throwing many household objects and appliances. When he knocked my glasses off I called the police for help. He told the police that he only pushed me once, in self defense because I was threatening him with a butcher knife... which is completely untrue. I was arrested and charged with aggravated battery dv, a felony.
Until that night I had a spotless record, not even a jaywalking ticket! My son on the other hand was on juvenile probation from age 14 - 19 stemming from domestic battery towards me followed by numerous violations of probation. He spent a great deal of time in juvenile facilities because of the repeated violations.
He also has a history of slight violence (unreported) from age 8 through 14, including throwing gravel and rocks at me, trying to push me off a sidewalk into oncoming traffic, putting his hands around my throat to choke me (he stopped when our ride pulled up and became all smiles and congenial), slamming a door on my bare foot resulting in bruising and swelling, and other incidents.
Unless you consider spanking to be a violent act I have never threatened or assaulted my son physically in any way.
My question is can his juvenile record and child hood history and patterns of violence be brought up in court to dispute his claim?
I did sustain bruises, "goose eggs" other minor aches and pains, and bruised and/or fractured ribs that night. With my pending charges in which I am the alleged batterer and he is the victim, would it be possible to file for an injunction against him? Knowing now that he his quite capable of physical violence I no longer feel safe in my own apartment and avoid being there as much as possible unless he is out.