I was dating this SC for 2 1/2 yrs actually I was living with him. He treated me better than a queen. From one day to the next he changed completely. Like it was not him. He dated and I moved on. It hurt me so much that I went into depression lost 60 pounds in 3 weeks. Short after I started dating CB and after months he and his kids moved in with me and my kids. We were happy. Got engaged and were suppose to get married in October of this year. We starting having problems because of my job. Working with men. 3 weeks ago it was bad to the point that if I wore thongs he made a big seen about we separated for a week. Then he came back and promised to change. Which he has been changing, but now we had a huge argument because he is having to pay 50% on child support to his ex wife and they only have 3 kids which all three of them live with us 24 7. We ended up in a huge fight because I told him to fight that. He ended up living the house again. In between all this SC has been calling me begging me back. I see him very sencere and you can tell he really loves me. My friends and I are seeing it. I am just confused as to which one to take back. Both of them have treated my kids good and including my grandaughter. My mother won't accept SC back because she loves CB. My daughter soesnt want either one back because for their kids (normal kids fighting one minute fighting the next). With SC I would be financially stable with CB we will be OK its just the problems with the child support and me feeling he doesn't give me the place I deserve. I am just so confused my feelings are confused. Because if I make the wrong decision I will hurt one that loved me and his kids. Please someone help. If you want to make questions just ask will tell the truth.

You shouldn't have relationships just because of SC's financial stability, or because mom loves CB. You should be with someone because you love them and are devoted to only them. You really never mentioned being in love with either of them.

I suggest that maybe you stop seeing both of them and spend some time getting yourself together and deciding what it is you really want.

I agree with Devoramiera, you have moved so fast into this second relationship that its causing all kinds of problems. I think being single without a relationship with either guy will eliminate your confusion, and give you time for the happiness of you and your kids, so you can move ahead with your own life, and what's more important to you without the problems of others becoming your problem.

At least you won't have to be overwhelmed by the BS of others.

Financial security can never take the place of love. But have you ever considered being single for awhile and seeing which one treats you the best then? Who ever will wait for you and work to earn you back is probably the one you should stay with and you'd have time to get your head straight and be close to your young children. I know it seems like and eternity (haha) but they grow up faster than you think. Also remember even young children can sense when your stressed and can become stressed too!