We go out sometime and hit the clubs never dances with me but will dance with other people I don't have a problem with that but when it comes down to grinding with other men and women then it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I tried to talk with her about it she said she wouldn't do it anymore and I take her word for it and so far I haven't been there to see it. So I don't know all I can do is take her word for it unless I see it, and another problem is this guy all of sudden starts calling her and texting I never heard of before, and she says its her cousin but this guy all of sudden starts texting and calling what should I do about all this? Should I just let it go. Its really hard to talk with her about things because she has a really short temper and she can be very revengeful Heeeeellllp!!

If you can't talk to your female, or are afraid to, as you seem to be, then her dancing and friends, are the least of your problems.

Stop with the insecurities now.

You asked her to stop the grinding and you haven't seen her do it again, so what's the problem? She was sensitive to your feelings and stopped it, so drop it.

If she's always been loyal and trustworthy, then you have no reason to believe otherwise. In other words, you just have to trust her unless you find out something definite. Don't go accusing her unjustly unless you're ready to lose her, because that behavior will definitely run her off.

If you don't know whether the guy that's texting is her cousin or not, then why not suggest meeting her cousin sometime?

You being afraid of her is a problem. Nobody should ever have to fear their spouse. Maybe you should get help with that. As far as you think she is cheating then, confront her or leave it be. If you can't prove it then I would drop it.

If you can't talk to her, and she is vengeful, you have bigger problems than her grinding people on the dance floor, and taking texts and calls from her 'cousin'.

No relationship can survive without communication, and I don't mean on the dancefloor, or in secret, or behind your back with other people. I mean, with you, and her only.

If you can't even comfortably talk to each other, and you are left with too many questions, and not enough answers, then what are you building a relationship on. Guesswork?

Problems come up in any relationship. The ability and maturity to work them out is the key to success. Being unable to put your concerns on the table because of the way she will react, does not bode well.

Not talking is really not an option when it comes to any relationship, if that relationship is to work.

I would be thinking seriously about where you are going, and whether you can even trust her, in light of the obvious concerns you have, that she refuses to discuss.

Buck up and move on. She won't dance with you and grind all over you on dance floor, but she will other guys oh and women! You can't talk to her about situation, or at least you try to talk but she gets all mad and then you all scared that she will break up so you shut up. You need to make a choice here, do you really want to stay in a relationship that you know she is messing around and will eventually dump you for another guy, or do you want to wise up and make a grown up decision and move on to a healthier relationship---good luck