So I met this guy online. We've been out twice so far, once the 2 past weekends. He waited 4 days to ask me out again after the first. It's day 4 and I haven't heard from him. We get along really, really well and he was pretty affectionate with me on both dates, hand on the back type sh*t. Then we really hit it off on the second date. There was way more chemistry. He tried to kiss me on the first, but I don't do that. Then we made out on the second and it was great. The weird thing is, he asked me on a third date towards the end of the second. So why have I not heard from him? He even texted me at the end of the second date asking me what I was doing the following day, but I had to work. Should I just be more patient? He is trying to play it cool? I'm assuming that I won't hear from him, but our connection was really good, he asked me on a third date, and I played it all really, really well. I'm going to start the "it's over" talk with myself because I want to get over it quicker. Everyone tells me that its definitely over if I don't hear from him tomorrow. Ugh. I actually liked him.

There are loads of reasons he may not have called you,he could have a girlfriend,he may be dating other people too,work commitments etc.

The thing is how busy do you have to be the send a 30 second text?

For me,id move on.

Whatever happened to non-instant, flash in the pan, relationships, that actually develop over time.

What is stopping you from calling him, and asking him out. Why are you waiting for him to make the move, and how do you know that he isn't expecting just that.

Maybe a simple phone call- not text- but communicate by actually hearing a voice on the other end, will give you some clue as to his interest, or lack of. All you are doing now is guessing, and already preparing to forget about him.

Why would you think its over, when it hasn't even begun. Maybe make an effort?

Since you're interested, why not give him a call?

He asked you what you were doing the following day and you said that you were busy. So because you were the one who rejected a date, I think that the ball is actually on your side of the court to reschedule. He might be afraid to contact you again because you might reject him again.

I think you'd be wise to just wait to see if he contacts you. He may be really busy with work or personal things.

If you don't hear from him in a week, then possibly give him a quick call. You don't appear very patient, as you seem too concerned about 4 days going by, so be careful to not come across as desperate.