I gay and 26 years old. I had been in 4.5 year relationship with my boyfriend. It ended 6 months ago. I was beginning to feel strong about the whole thing and was trying to get on with life. We slept together once during this time and it did not effect me. During the first 2 years of our relationship we lived together and then had to move to different places to study. We split up twice during this time, he said he needed space and felt empty inside and did not know what he wanted. He said he still loved me. Anyway we got back together until June 2006 when he had his third blip! He was meant to come and be with me for a while where I was working for a few weeks in the summer, I had been to him as usual before this! I usually had to go to him, we were about a 4 hour drive apart. He did not come as he had to work on his house, so I was quite out out. Anyway he phoned and said it was not going to work he just needed space and he just was not sure about anything. He really needed time on his own as he had not had this for a long time. So we split, I was gutted but as I said I was beginning to move on. However, the other day I discovered he was seeing someone else, this really annoyed me particularly that he said it was the last thing he was looking for. I phoned him upset and said he was trying to move on. I came to the realisation as to what I had lost and really felt he was the guy I wanted to live with and be with. We decided to meet up. He bought our dog, please note I am looking after the dog for a week for him! I told him how I feel about him and I new that I had to move on even though I did not want to. I told him I was willing to be with him in a few months when I finished studying. He said he fancies me more than ever and that he thinks we are both better people now and if we were to meet we would be perfect. He said though that circumstance has changed and he needs space and to see what happens with this other guy, who he likes but is unsure about. He also said he would not know if he was in love with this guy? He also spending xmas with him after 4 weeks! He thinks I need to move on and he does not know what will happen in the future, but he can still see us maybe being together. We enjoy everything together, he is my best friend and it kills me that he wants to cut off from us for a period, especially when he says every time we talk he finds it really hard to be with his new man. He also says it comforts him to know he has not blown everything between us! Help I love this guy, he is not a nasty guy and I cannot get over this, feel low and losing weight which is really not right. Is there a future, I realise not but I don’t want to let him go and move on in case I lose him forever.
Help!!

A part of you may always love your ex too! After 6 months and a lot of pain and hardship I still love my ex too! It is hard and it will take a lot of time but soon enough you will find someone else and you will fall in love again and eventually the past will slowly fade away. Just do other things, each healty, work out, find new hobbies and go out there and meet new people and make new friends. Friends and family are the key in helping you get over your ex they are there for support and they love you and will help you through this!

He has made a decision to move in another direction, so get over the shock and leave him alone. Find a life without him. Don't let him walk over you either, as he can't just walk back to you after ripping at your heart. You need a life that makes you happy without him, so get one.